I decided to be who I am and cut off all the toxic relationships. Intially..it was scary and zero social life. However..after few days I realized I can start doing things which I REALLY WANT TO. 1) First I stopped trying hard to make friends.I let go. 2) I started to focus on myself and what I want to do.I joined fitness classes,Zumba,yoga..it was so refreshing.Something which I wanted to Do. 3) Slowly..I realized I stopped fearing being judged coz I felt it’s totally okay to be alone.BEING ALONE and BEING LONELY are totally two Different thingsYou start to Discover more of your strengths.. 4) Less fake socialization,less peer pressure and started to Doing more things I love. 5) Honestly..I find ladies in IL are very genuine than in real life.I have so much fun here and people here have helped me a lot and it moulded me.people are more real in this virtual world including me.We all come here for a reason and people have been so helpful.Trust me 6) Getting rid of bad friendships is the biggest gift I gave myself.Initially I feared I will be alone but now I feel “how many years I wasted being a friend to someone who is so unsupportive and Crab mentality?” 7) NO expectations.Tough one but doable.You will get upset when people hurt you BUT since your expectations are low ..you will “recover faster” from the hurt 8) Life a live true to yourself.Something I learnt and still learning.I always felt out of the crowd coz I liked things which deviated me from the norm of the society.I do things I like.I make sure to do something everyday which makes me happy. 9) I don’t seek friends anymore but strangely I see people started to come more to me and even respect me for being the person I am. 10) Now..I really don’t care much and feeling easier to speak what I feel but in a polite way..If a person like me Can do it..Anyone can! 11)Overthinking is the worst enemy.I do things BUT I do things I love which diverts me a lot and my negative thought pattern gets channeled towards Positive..as an eg: I like food blogs and travel blogs..watch movies which I love.. Once you let go...LIFE HAPPENS All the above surely made me much better and peaceful than before. I am not at all 100 percent there ..far from that but looking back..definitely I have come a far way. Sorry OP if I digressed..just wanted to share and see if my thoughts are of any help.