Horoscopes, Astrology and Arranged Marraiges

My friend just called to share with me the good news that her nephew is getting engaged. She went on to say how the horoscopes matched and how the parents and the boy went to visit with the girl's family and how everything worked out smoothly. I could feel my jaw drop open! Dont get me wrong..I am all for arranged marraiges but in recent years have been to so many marraiges and none of them was arranged or even horoscpoes matched! So I just assumed matching horoscopes is becoming a thing of the past or should I say becoming OBSOLETE?? really.. could it be?
My husband and I were matched by horoscope though in my initial years of marraige I was convinced the astrologer was a fraud (God please forgive me)..In fact now nearly 24 years after i will agree that the astrologer was none other than GOD.. in person..to arrange my marraige..enough of me and my boring story..getting back to the horoscopes and arranged marraiges..
Is this concept still prevalent or am I totally derailed in my thinking its fading fast? Does horoscopes get drawn up when children are born?? How about marraiges.. Is parental consent as much of importance like in the past?
When I was young the parents would be the first people from the family to visit the girl's house. Then even aunts and sisters would make the travel. Lastly the boy will get to go. In many a case decisions used to be made without the boy being present. During my time I noticed a trend ..which is that the boy MUST be present(during penn parkum visit) and the boy and girl would be allowed to TALK ! really !! No chaperones needed !!! Recently I heard , again among my younger cousins that they could go out together before wedding and again heard that horoscopes are not looked into as much nowadays..
Those days my grandmother would first check and make sure that it is not "Ragu Kalam" before even TALKING about horoscopes or marraige! Never dream about stepping out during Ragu Kalam. That reminds me once we had to travel by train and the train departed during Ragu Kalam. SO we all got ready and packed and left the house before Ragu Kalam and sat at the Railway Station for Only 2 hours for the train to arrive. She would never dream of taking a decision as big as a marraige without consent of horoscopes. God bless her soul for that. All her talking about the rasis and planetary movements have made me somewhat familiar with the terminolgy.
Talking with my friend really brought back these memories and I really wonder if marraiges are still arranged and how much of an influence the astrologer and astrology have on these decisions?
Only my friends here can give me a good perspective on this subject matter!

 

I am also not angel to live with dear Chithra.Totally agree that its hard work..and of the two of us he is better in patience and understanding.and better .. I now know without any doubts mine was dealt by the God I worship and as such owe a debt that can never be repaid in full..Thanks for replying..I thought no one was going to reply to this topic..

 

Looks like we have one thing in common..that is Success dear Aruna..and it counts a lot..I see so many marraiges that do not work..or end in divorce..or just drift apart..Since you do not mention how many years you have been married lets just assume you are young sweet bride..keep blogin..

 

Please dont stop and its no sermon honeybee sweetiebee..I was so enjoying your post when you ended..please do post more if you find time..I am impressed a beautiful youngster like you think about arranged marraige..in a positive way..I also like the way our parents look out for "good family" and "good" boy..All these small things count..really glad you replied..keep blogin..

 

Glad that the tradition still exists..and you and I are proof dear Shantha..nice that you have got the big family and a good person for a husband..all our old traditions and customs have so much value in them ..glad we ar all continuing.hopefully some moght pass on to the next gen..