My personal experience is that it does not matter, if the relationship is good. If the relationship sucks, nothing gives joy. I did not want to be a SAHM because I have seen how well my mom who is a SAHM was treated. But I am not at all a SAHM and I have not got any better treatment. Yet, I cannot even think of being a SAHM because I am not allowed to and even if I were given that choice, I would not prefer to be like that because my life would be hell being financially dependent on someone else. If everything was all right, I would probably be a SAHM, because I find joy in looking after my kids and the house too. But the fact, the world does not value SAHMs any more. Money has acquired more value than anything. Even if there is no opposition, it is always good to be self-reliant nowadays. This is not about who is greater, it is about adapting to the times. As long as people don't realize that being a mom and homemaker is also a tough job, being a SAHM is disadvantageous.