sdiva, i feel your analogy to cricket itself is wrong . IF you ask any 12th , 13th man what they would like to do in the team , most would say they want to be in middle of action batting or bowling In the ground . They will wait for a chance to get to the role of main players , that will only happen if there is any issue with main players . Home makers don't wait for a chance for something to happen to take up other role. now when she said none wants to be 12th man you are attributing that comment to your mom which i think is not correct . I guess she just needed to add 'some homemakers' in all her posts instead if homemakers , then I guess so much reaction would not be there . There are few posts which judge working woman too in thread .