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Home maker vs Working woman- Who is Great? and Who do you like to be?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Keet, Feb 1, 2015.

Who is great? Home maker or Working Woman

  1. Homemaker

    9 vote(s)
    8.4%
  2. Working Woman

    30 vote(s)
    28.0%
  3. Both are equal

    68 vote(s)
    63.6%
  1. armummy

    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    sdiva,

    i feel your analogy to cricket itself is wrong . IF you ask any 12th , 13th man what they would like to do in the team , most would say they want to be in middle of action batting or bowling In the ground . They will wait for a chance to get to the role of main players , that will only happen if there is any issue with main players . Home makers don't wait for a chance for something to happen to take up other role.

    now when she said none wants to be 12th man you are attributing that comment to your mom which i think is not correct .

    I guess she just needed to add 'some homemakers' in all her posts instead if homemakers , then I guess so much reaction would not be there . There are few posts which judge working woman too in thread .
     
  2. yellowmango

    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Analogy to cricket is quite right....
    Some people choose to be specialist batsmen.Some choose to be the specialist bowlers...while some all rounders.
     
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  3. heron

    heron Platinum IL'ite

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    Indu , if I am right , I think you are saying that people must have an ambition. A home maker also has an ambition, a 100% family oriented one, they work hard to aceive this. So they are not wasting their talent and they are proud of it , the thing is the results of this talent only shows up a long time after. Its not like pottery or painting...

    I dont object your opinion, just giving you some insight.
     
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  4. nb25

    nb25 Gold IL'ite

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    @armummy,

    Leaving the cricket analogy aside for a moment, do you think what indubalram said is right? Judging any one - SAHW, SAHM, working woman, working man, any one else is wrong.
     
  5. heron

    heron Platinum IL'ite

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    I agree. Please dont take comments so personally. We all know how noble our parents are... especially mothers. No one here has any right to make personal attacks on a member, leave alone their parents. I hope Indu did not do it.

    So @sdiva Chillout!. I have seen how much you adore your mom in other posts :)
     
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  6. armummy

    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    No one likes to be judged , but we get judged many times .there is no point in asking others not to judge .
    It is her opinion whether right or wrong and she is entitled to it . I feel her comments are being blown out of proportion .
     
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  7. nb25

    nb25 Gold IL'ite

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    Ok. But judging on working/SAH, which is a personal decision, is not right. Her opinion, if it applies to only her decision to work/SAH, would not even be an issue here, and there would be no discussions. I don't think her comments are not being blown out of proportion.
     
  8. indubalram

    indubalram Gold IL'ite

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    I agree I should have said some home makers!!
     
  9. dsmenon

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    The whole discussion was based on her comparison of her who is working to her SIL who is not working. I guess that is what got everyone worked up..
     
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    Please go back and read my analogy about cricket again. I did not mention anything about 12th man. My point was everyone in team takes on different goal for the larger picture - of winning. Life is the same. In order to make it successful, family members take on complementing roles. You would have got that had you read my comment.

    When another poster said, 12th man is not important, I said yes he is when another key member is not available to play.

    My comprehension skills is good enough to understand she did not personally mean my mom. But what I understood is that in her opinion, homemakers are like that 12th man always in sidelines not in center making any contribution to the family. So what makes one think, a home maker is not using her talent? Because she does not get a paycheck?

    Are you also calling a HM the 12th man?

    About WM, I am just as against someone judging their choices. I said that even the likes of Indira Nooyi does not have it easy. What else do you want me to say?


     
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