Hiding "me" Infront Of Life Partner

Dont underplay your unhappiness in your marriage. Different women have different expectations. Some might be all right if they are in your shoes, some might walk out. I dont have an actual solution to your problem , as its a complex mixture of many issues. I suggest that you and your husband go to a few therapy sessions together to strengthen your relationship , especially in terms of your emotional needs being met. Every person navigates a relationship based on their past experiences and perspective. Maybe for your husband you both are a completely normal couple with no major issues, but you have expectations of romance which are not being met( you are not wrong, neither is your husband if thats not his personality at all, but you are mismatched and somehow you ended up being married with kids and now the only option is to put in a little effort from both sides).