Hi, I am half way with my 2nd one and always tired and back aches etc. Now we have overactive toddler and inconsiderate H whose priorities are somewhre else. After first kid, only time we were intimate was to have 2nd one after 5 yrs that too i kind of pressurized as there was no more window left for me and i was surprised i conceived quickly. Now I have all sort of smell issues and same fatigue stress etc and new job stress. Even in normal days, I am smell or chemicals sensitive and whenever clean bathrooms with clorex, etc normally fall sick because of fumes. Now my parents came to help me but obviously house got more dirty. I am cleaning cleaning and gagging on smells but he does not have any mercy. I tell him to help in cleanup in certain things but no he won't and said straight 'no' in froont of parents to calm his ego or whatever. I am cleaning bathrooms, shower tubs toilets and bending showering her. I have no cooking work as parents taking care of it but more cleaning dishes in washer or sweeping even though they are also doing. Not much help from him. Now parents left, he said he will take care of everything but no... after 2-3 days he got fed up. No, he is not doing everything. I am cooking bkfast/lunches for us, he is picking/dropping and may be dinner curries. Rest of work, cleaning, laundry, sweeping/mopping, rugs cleaning, floors/bathrooms again etc I am doing. I am cleaning bathroom every week w/ any help from him. then my smells issues got better as i advanced in pregnancy also less cooking and less smells in house, we got very busy with work and kid and festivals but he is been inviting people home every weekend, even weekdays, just like that and when i question, he volunteers, i will cook. .... even though I also help but you know pre-clean/post cleaning, side dishes, chapati/rice cooking, etc does not count. With all this we are getting tired, lose taking care of our kid, lose our calm we fight but he does not stop inviting. Then it was our anniv recently, I was already frustated that he did not even care to give me flower etc, last year also I gave him gift ( atleast I did it to show some consideration or celeb), I was travelling that day so max i could was gave him gift, and damage he did, he went to movies with friends on our anniv. Honestly i do not like him or love him a lot and i know i am having his baby but he is not the ideal man i wanted or always dreamed of. Now how he behaves every year, he feels pressurized whenever my bday or anniv comes and it shows on his face. but when it is his friends or someone else he is so excited. so many times i want to run away from home and stay at motel for the night. He keeps his priorities straight, movie for full week, game on this day and movies with friends at night, rest all of us should re-arrange according to that. It is not that he does not work around the house, but he does not priortize things or give them importance as they should be. like family or home should come first, specially in this case, when we have second one on the way and i am not in perfact shape and body. Not in many years, he said kind words to me, when i feel so tired or fat or ugly. Only bad words he would say that i do not do enough. He will spend 50$ easily on my kids stupid toy that she wont' even demand but just like that will see in her school and will go various places to get parts. or her stupid hatchanimals inspite of me stopping him to bring tiny toys. But for me, rose or cake seems unneccessary to him and tells me you do not need that on your bday that, i do not think so. or we do not need cake on anniv i think. Will bring unneccesary loads and loads of candy to waste on halloween or lot of sweets to give away on diwali or crackers for others on diwali but 10$ for me on card is waste for him. Sometimes i feel so bad that i curse this baby in my tummy which is making my hormones go rage and make me feel unfit to gym away my stresses and helpless and ugly at home. First pregnancy, i was able to take rest and he sometimes used to rub my feet or back with oil and i ask him to do it sometimes now as feet swell but no. All he keeps complaining that i do not cook. Out of 7 days, 7 X 3 meals-= 21 meals, I cook 10 mostly. There are people who eat lunch outside everyday, atleasy you get to take lunch. There was time when i was at home and used to cook 3 meals for him and he used to dump in office so he could outside. I do not know what to do... am i expecting too much? are these all hormones? I see all those understanding or lovey dovey couples, I feel so bad about myself, the mess i got myself into.