H Wants To Take Kid To His Parents Alone For Few Days

Tell him the needs to be met for ur child if he wants to take her to his place. Make him cautious about her health . Hope he will realise if he can do it or not. 10 days is a big time for a small child with out mom. If ur child misses u then it is going to be more tough.

 

Before a child is taught and understands the concept of "good touch, bad touch", it is good to be under mummy's watch.
There are threads in this forum on how to teach a child good touch-bad_touch.

 

Op,you need to loosen up.
Let them go.
He is the father ,he will take care.
He just has to make sure she gets clean water,has mosquito repellent on .
Even if she has maggi or bread for 10 days ,it is not going to harm her long term .

Tell your husband you have thought over it and feel he and his mother can take good care of your daughter. Tell him you trust him completely.This way he will be under pressure to be worthy of the trust.


Give him a small list.
1) Her safety....he has to be around her all the time or have mil around her in his absence. Teach your child good touch bad touch in front of him. That way he will realise the importance.

2) Only bottled water for her. Tell him to buy enough and keep .
3 ) Buy mosquito repellent patches/ cream and ask him to apply all the time.

Rest tell him you are sure he will make sure she is well fed and clean.
She will eat when she is hungry and she will ask to be cleaned when she needs to be cleaned.

Your mom and sis have a lot to do and taking care of a toddler ' s needs must not be high on their list. They don't need the extra worry.


Last time she was at in laws , she was small and small children fall sick more often. A change of place makes it worse.

What is the worst that can happen?
He can't manage and comes back running to you and never brings up this topic again. You get some time to help out at the wedding without the baby.

The best thing that can happen is that she has a really good time with dad and grand mother and you get some family time for yourself.

Don't fight this.
Tell him you trust him to take care of her for 10 days,

Genuinely prepare both of them and let him take the call if he can go through with this.

You have very little to lose . Let him take the call.
If he chickens out,fine. Atleast he won' t try this as a threat again .

If he goes through this and succeeds,it is a very happy development. It is a big milestone in your family life. Your child can be left with the father in emergencies. That is a big load off a mother's head.

Good luck op, play it cool.

 

As everyone said - let him take her . Tell him filmy style - ja Jee le apni Zindagi ( just kidding ) . Your kid is definitely going to miss you and ask for you after the first few days. 2-3 days without mother is fine but for a small child , 10 days is a long time . And your husband is going to realize a few things too in meantime.

 

How old is your kid ? I think you are being a helicopter parent . We mothers don't get a manual of how to look after our kids . When babies fall into our lap , we figure out the rest . Same goes for men . They are not that dumb and most are quite capable of handling another human . It's his own child , he will figure it out . When the baby falls sick or gets bitten by mosquitoes , the fatherly instinct will kick in . Now some mothers want to be super mom who want everything in their control then that's a problem .

Regarding diet , generally grandmas are quite loving and end up over pampering their grandkids . I really doubt that ur MIL no matter how careless she is with her hubby will feed her grandkid Maggie or puris everyday . And even if she does sometimes , nothing is going to happen .kids are used to eating much worse than that by picking things from floor , passing germs etc.

When my older one was around 2, he flew overseas with my hubby . My ds woke up first few nights looking for me but DH managed it quite well . I was alone in the US and I had a ball of a time!

It's just a 10 days vacation . Do what you have been wanting to do all these days ever since the baby was born . Catch up with friends , watch a movie , sleep in/ wake up late or do nothing .

To me it looks like a power struggle for you and you don't want them to enjoy with your kid . Just let go of that and let your hubby deal with the real struggle of handling a kid. He will realize how much of a work this is and may never request such vacations again . After that the kid will be forever yours if that's what you want .

 

There are only two outcome from this:
You let him take her, going by your post, if all of those things happens - your hubby will learn, will stop blamin u, never ask you this again, this topic n it's arguments comes to a stop.

Or if it goes well, n he manages to do well, you have paved way for your child n hubby to spend time at his parents house without them dragging you.

Both is a win win for you.

I think you should let him take her. Let him experience handling all of his daughters needs n sickness by himself. 10 days is a good enough period for him to come to realisation and he will never bother you with this topic ever again.

I share the same sentiment as Rihanna in regards to child's one sickness = repenting whole life scenario. Children falls sick more often than adults do. Let him also realize about the connection between your daughters health n his parents house.

Stop being the bad guy for him n his family all your life n let him see all this with his own eyes, or else he will never realize in his life n will continue to blame only you. N your children would have to witness this argument all their life. You will actually be doing all of you a favour by agreeing to this n puttin an end to this argument. N if it happens according to your post, most likely it won't even last all 10 days.

Let them have their daddy - daughter time n u have fun at the wedding.