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  1. Oct 17, 2017 #61
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    ChennaiExpress, Oct 17, 2017
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    Physical abuse is a bigger issue. Please see to it that once ur in-laws leave how is his behavior. Please be firm that u take no physical or emotional abuse from him. U r not less than anyone , u need to feel secure when u r with ur life partner. Hope he too understands this.
     
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    Thank you, I took your advice, and I am initiating divorce, now that I am no longer feeling guilty. It's the surrounding players, BIL and In-laws, my own parents, that made me feel guilty - now I feel like I will not be burdening anyone.
     
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    wow. a great update
     
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    All the best to you @BhumiBabe It seems like you're finally at peace with your decision and that's the main thing. No doubt it's going to be a challenging journey but I truly feel like you've given it your best shot. At the end of the day, there's only a so much one partner in the marriage can do, especially when the other party is stubborn and can't even acknowledge or accept the issue(s) involved. Stay strong and don't take anyone else's opinions to heart, I think your parents will understand you, especially your father
     
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    Thank you. I agree. It will be a difficult journey, but I feel like it is the right decision. I realized that I am a person who does not like conflict and tends to suffer in silence - if I don't take action now, I will have to be resigned with my decision to stay, and be a bad role model for my son. Of course, I will no longer have the picture perfect life (2 kids, a home, nice family vacations) and that really makes me scared, but I think, in the long run, I will appreciate that I swallowed the bitter pill.
     
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    You are a Lady, a Queen, a Sweetheart and a delicate Princess. You deserve the best. Keep persisting, and demanding till you get the best treatment, which you deserve.

    You deserve all the happiness.

    Your child deserves a loving home.

    Your ex deserves a kick in the @$$ for all eternity. I'll never forget the post where you said he hit you while you were making his dinner, carrying his child.

    To me that was point of no return.
     
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    @BhumiBabe You are a strong woman. Wish you all the best.
     
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    Hi @BhumiBabe ,
    I have lived through the divorce journey of two of my closest friends. I promise you things will get better.

    Don’t judge yourself harshly for coming to this decision. Take time to heal from a unhappy marriage. It can really take a toll on one’s mind and overall health.

    Sending you lots of strength and peace of mind as you go through this process.

    Please take care .








     
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