Give Me Some Suggestions

I was working in india and then moved to usa as dependent . I had decided to leave job as i wanted to spend time with her . After i came to usa , i did not search job for next 2 years ( my dd was 1 year when i came here ) ...
Right now i am searching job . Whoever calls me does not want to sponsor as there is no premium processing. I can work here if i get a sponsor ( no lottery in my case )
Now the real problem is i am feeling v unhappy about my life . What makes me feel unhappy is i am feeling like a maid , cook .
My hubby throws thrash , brings groceries till third floor , puts his shirts for laundry once i segregate n keep . Once in 3 months , he does vacuum once i remove all items .
My work is full care of baby from brushing , giving bath , feeding , making her play , managing her at house , playing with her , managing baby potty times giving milk , taking her to park , cooking 4 times a day ( we dont eat cereals n my hubby wants evening tiffin), putting laundry , folding clothes, Putting baby things in her box , cleaning bathroom etc etc. Evening hubby comes at 6.30. Eats snacks that i prepare . Sleeps till 7.30. Goes for a walk and then eats dosa that i prepare. And then he sees mobil till 12 n then sleeps.
Even after doing all the work , he complains full time . From my childhood , i ve been little absent minded. He uses that fully to complain . Say , in a month , four times i forgot to close bathroom tap fully . .
Yesterday i had feverish feeling , slept til 6 . Make chapathi at 7 as he was v hungry . Night i made ven pongal sambar . Then he was shouting at me that his clothes are not washed n house is not clean .
My god , i m tired of all the work . I want to run away somewhere .
I feel like i m an unpaid maid .
These many days , i told to myself i dont need approval from anyone n was neglecting all his complaints . But yesterday when he complained even when i was unwell , i lost it . With the feverish feeling i washed all vessels n cleaned things n slept .
I used to ask him to feed baby once in a while . But he does it after i say 10 times . So now a days i m training my kid to eat by herself .
Gals , i know even if i go job , i will be doing all these work myself plus a full time job .
It is practically impossible to make him work . I dont want him to do house work too as i ve been pleading him to share housework n it never happened last 3 years .
I am feeling frustrated since yesterday . I m feeling mad , like a worthless fellow who only does house hold chores but gets pinpointed for silly mistakes that i do
( dont think my hubby is a neat fellow . He throws pants , shirts , ear buds , tetra packs everywhere in house . But house should be super neat )

 

I feel like i am a single parent . My dd thingsin and out i should take care . If her hands needs to be washed , he ll send her to me to get it washed. If she has runny nose i ve to wipe it .
Each n everything i shld do . But he never realizes it . I want to leave my kid alone with her dad for 20 days to make him see the reality . But it is not possible . My kid does not stay without me .

 

A correction to first time , in last 3 years , he had fed baby only a 15 times that too after i requested many times .
In my friend 's i see husbands taking over children care after they come from office . But here he has never taken care

 

Thanks for ur reply . I was feeling v down n wanted to vent out . Yes , as u said i ve explained him many times that doing household chores , cooking , baby stuff is not so easy . But he feels it easy as i had gone to india for 5 months n he cooked by himself . He seems to lack empathy . Does not even attempt to think about me .
I do the same as u said . I dont pick his clothes . But still i am overwhelmed with work load .
Hiring nanny or some help , he ll never do as it ll cost him money .
I am ready to do the work too but wat i hate most is he complaining even after i do so much . I started hating him recently dor this .
I am trying to limit my cooking time to only morning . Like finish off all work in morning n wash dishes .but again anyway i ve to make dosa , boil milk etc
I feel like struck in a jail . No help , no way to avoid house work , only criticisms .
So far i stopped caring about criticism . I used to tell him ' first u participate in house work . Then u can criticize '.
Is there a way for my husband to understand my view without fighting. Best way ll be to leave baby with him for a weeek n go away. But cant do it

 

It is long term .he shifted to a company here. I worked in india in it for more than 12 years .
I cant study now . He wont allow too .
He knows to cook to lots of items . But he never does a single work other than throwing thrash bags