Dear ILites, Some time back I had written to you all regarding whether or not I would need help post-delivery to recover from the process and take care of the child. Initially, I was nervous about sorting out the problem of which-set-of-parents-come-when; I spoke to my husband about it and he agreed to have his parents come a little later in the year. Now, I have heard reports from other mothers of new moms (who travelled to the US for delivery) that it was an exhausting process. I think it was partly the absence of house-help (this lady I speak of has 2 maids to help her back in India.. not to sound like Im judging). Forget all that -- immaterial. Now, I want to protect my mother and her energy. I know she is growing old.. and I know she is concerned about tackling this by herself. Im not sure what to say, but I am really sure that I can take concrete steps to prepare from my side -- so that her job is easier. What is the best possible attitude I can have, in order to receive her help at the same time reduce the pressure to "do-everything"! (my mother is a bit of a perfectionist.. as am I!) shucks! The things that are on her side are: we are an organized family, and my DH is supremely supportive and has a good eye for organization. We are pretty well-equipped (like any other home in the US), with an inbuilt washer-dryer, dishwasher at home. Living where I do -- its pretty free of dust and dirt -- so cleaning wont be a major issue. I am making it a point to have enough sets of clothes for self and the expected infant -- so that we need not be running the washer each DAY. I know we cant cut short on the cooking (I understand its important that I eat healthy in order to feed the infant right), but what kind of steps can I take to ease the pressure on my mother? Is there a stock of items I can keep? Any shelf-space I should create? Any particular baby-item to keep handy? Any extra bottles or spare rag cloth or something? Experienced mothers -- please pour in your input! Also (though seemingly unrelated), please suggest what kind of shopping I should put off when she is here. Which baby items should I purchase first (So that they are ready for use once the child arrives?) Which items should I best wait for my mother to arrive, before choosing? I have requested her to arrive 2 weeks before delivery -- so I can make the most of her stay once the child is home. Being a first-time mother with no elder sisters, I really could use all the help I could possibly receive on this front. Thanks so much for your ideas; RH.