In-laws who had caused the OP nightmares in the past cannot be labelled "small issues". Sama, dana, behda, danda are the four upayas. Pancha tantra includes all these and adds another to make it five. The four upayas or approaches, i.e., ways of realising aim or object have existed since the period of the epics and the Dharmasastra. The upayas are sama- dana- behda- danda: conciliation, gifts, rupture and force. <source> When girls write long essays to anonymous readers, and ask for their suggestions, and lebel their own life "****", we may either assume that they lack the art of diplomacy, or they had tried what they could have, and see that they have reached the end of their art. Escape, and regroup is a good strategy at that point. "Sleeping with the Enemy" is a hollywood movie that is barely nice enough to watch on screen, but having to live it, is not necessarily something one could recommend. Not even to some poor anonymous nobody on the internet.