Gender Equality In Our Eyes!

Inspired by this threadMy Brother - A Superdad And Superhusband and the various reactions/responses given by others, I wish to start an open discussion here on Gender equality.

No doubt that I admire @lukywife for starting this eye opener thread. This one is not an extension of her thread.
However, I sensed the different understanding of gender equality and justice from different folks here.

One hand, we fight for justice. We fight for equal rights, gender balance and what not.
In a way, some of us are borderline feminists too.

But on the other hand, we easily give up our rights, and accept discrimination as part of our cultural package.

Eg: If a man steps out of his gender box (the socially defined role of a man) to help his wife for cooking/cleaning at home, the society either call him super OR challenges his masculinity by calling him henpecked.
While criticizing the folks who call a helping husband as henpecked, we fail to recognize those who call him super.
The ones who call him super also give him and the society a wrong message. Because helping wife is not super, it is normal. It should be his duty.
You can't expect everyone to be super. But you can demand the same if that is recognized as something normal.
Wanting to be normal is an easy demand.
Eg: If you ask your H to be a super husband, he may deny that. But if you ask him to be normal, he can't deny that easily.

There are wives who quit their lucrative careers just to take care of their kids. There are wives who manages the home and career singlehandedly just to ensure their family hasn't missed anything.
There are wives who accepts long sabbatical at the cost of promising promotions, and financial independence just to support their husband's career after kids.
But we accept them as normal. We never call them super.

If at all a woman comes here to announce how super she is/ or her sister is because they work and earn a salary in addition to whatever the socially assigned roles of a woman?
Would you all praise her for being super? Would you even accept her as super?
How many of us would show our rage to call these women as self boasting?
How many of us would shrug our shoulders and say 'Huh... all of us do this, then why super?
How many of us would start a battle here defending home makers, only to ensure these working women are no better than home makers. Because both of them work!!!

But when a man does something like this, I mean doing something beyond his socially defined role, it becomes viral... either we praise him as super, or tease him as hen pecked.

When are we gonna let our men to be normal? Unfair, isn't it?

Let's think about it...

 

Thanks @teejay and @Desiindian for your responses.

I agree wholeheartedly that there is nothing wrong in appreciating someone for the work they do, even if that falls withing 'normal' range. I get your point that, what is normal for someone may not be normal for others.
My discussion point is not that. As I warned above, this thread is not an extension to the previous thread about a super husband/dad.

My calls is, whether we appreciate the women who does 'normal' or slightly extra ordinary things like having a career in parallel to their household responsibilities and social roles (such as mom, DD, DIL, Wife)?

How many of us share or even post a thread here saying my sister is a supper mom, my SIL is a super wife for doing the normal things like going to work and take care of the kids, while perhaps cooking or cleaning?
I know we women do certainly more if we are to count the tasks. But these are the things that are taken for granted in real life.
No one comes to appreciate you or point their finger at you saying you are great for being 'normal'.
That's the reality... It is our choice whether we accept this reality or not.

 

Just a small difference... All the women are normal, just as the normal men. There are some super women, and super men too. They do exceedingly better things.
But there are jerks, chauvinist, and unaware women too.
Sadly we call the latter caseload as normal, so whoever leads a normal life becomes super. This sadly makes no room for the real super heroes

 

There is no standard scale or definition to this, specially when it comes to people's matter.
Traditionally we call someone super for being excellent in something they do. There is a socially defined/accepted level, which is called normal. Which is widely accepted and commonly practiced. So anything beyond this 'normal' level is called super/excellent.
What is normal to me may not be normal to you. Because there is no scale to measure what is normal in the first place.

However, what is normal to a man should be normal to a woman. What is super to a man should be super to a woman too. That is what called gender equality and justice.
This thread is all about this.