Frustated with married life

I think such men are looking for a battery charger in their wives... as they themselves lack the ability to stirr someone..
He probably knows how to care for his mom cos the mom knows how to ASK for it.
Did you come from a home where all the work in home and plumbing and electric was done ONLY by your dad?.. if so then it might be a cultural shock for you but then such H are plain simple lazy to have anything PERFECT around them.

Why does ONLY he need to book tickets for vacation? Are you not working to buy.... or any saving... or add on card from which you can tell him... we're gng here... this weekend... any issues?

His X-GF had the opportunity to learn that HE can't charge her batteries... but guess you were not so lucky... so maybe now you learn the art of Charging.

 

well,your hubby sounds like any guy.........but as you are aware of his shortcomings then better adjust with them & be happy.....u live in Banglore & really don't need your hubby to take you around.......go to Malls,parks temples ,movies with your kid.............plan & book tkts for Oaty & Mysore for small trips with your hubby.........
lastly,he talks to his Mom as she does not complain ........Avoid complaining..........praise any small help given to you & Thank him a lot for small things(Hell ,I thank my hubby for going to a walk with me if I can't find anything else)

 

Maya,
I have been in same situation even now. Its been 3 yrs since mywedding. My husband is also very good at heart but he s a mommy boy. My mil acts so good in front of all later yells at me using abuse words. My fil is a very calculative person and have made my H tosuch a state that he gives away all his salary to him and now my son is their with us and my H is not ready to take up the expense of my son. He want my mil only to pay the expense. He thinks I am cheating him.


my H does nt like my mom. I have a single parent and my H doesnt want me to look after my mom. I am also working right now inspite of tat he s not agreeing. So if I say anything abt my mil he starts off about my mom.

 

In our society many times boys are told to not to start ignoring mother when wife enters in life.Many time this is translated as not giving respect and attention to wife and keeping all focus on mom only.

In our home my dad do all cooking cleaning ,i wonder what kind of cultural shock i am going to get after marriage.

 

Agree to ShilpaMa...

why dont you take charge of going out. i think the main issue after marriage for women is they devoter their lives to husband and kids and then find themselves with no freedom or no time for own.

yeap, praising him for little things will work wonders but i also think you should take control of your own wishes. if you wish to go out... plan yourself. start mingling with friends and plan your ladies day out with kids or if he is happy to look after your kid.. .just go for ladies day out. this will give you a sense of freedom and fresh mind to look towards your relationship. plus if he looks after the kid himself... may be he'll understand what you go through whole day while looking after your child.

also, have you tried to find out what occupys his mind all the time... if he is on laptop or with friends... what is he looking for or talking? may be he is worried about something or wants to do something like doing business or progressing in career and if he is stressed.... he might not want you to get stressed and that's why he stays away from you.

 

Do you have freedom to appoint a maid? please learn to enjoy your own life alone.I dont think so you can change your huaband a lot in short frame of time.