From Useless to Useful 2003 – KAMALJI –USELESS 2012 – KAMALJI – BLOGGER/USEFUL/ACTIVE I was sitting with an exporter friend, and he was asking me how the house of my brother is coming up, and I tol him , the basement roof has been cast and the ground floor work has started. His remark made me sit up. He said “ Kamal u do so much for yr brother and his wife, no one does such things for anyone, they are lucky to have u “ !!! Well I did not say anything, but as I drove back, it set me thinking. He does not know the other side of the story, for that part only I know, not even my wife, not even anyone else. According to him, they are lucky to have me , for I have helped them so much to settle in Jaipur in business, getting them the land, and overseeing the construction, and it is another year and ahalf to go, with various contractors, with whom I have to deal with. Let me give u my side of the story. It is not I who have done them any favours, it is they have done me a favour. I had retired in 2003 from business and till 2007 when they came down, I was all alone in the office upstairs, reading papers, phones had stopped coming from suppliers, for they thought I was a cow that had stopped giving milk, that is business to them, so the calls stopped slowly. At times I had to pick up the landline to find out if it was working or dead why the calls were not coming.Slowly depression set in, and I had a hard time fighting it off. I was cut off from the market conditions, and I did not even know if the dollor was 45, or 35, or 50. I was wearing rubber slippers to office, for I had nowhere to go, so who would see me.it was great effort to put on shoes. I somehow controlled my depression, and got back to normal, for soon blogging came along, and that put me in good spirits. When my brother and bhabhi expressed their desire to come to jaipur , for they did not have space in Mumbai, their office falling small, I was loathe to tell them to come, for I had lost touch with the market since then. But they were insistent , and I had no option, but to tell them yes, and I told them I have 2 floors empty, they are free to take it for free. I managed to get them a bunglow on rent, the premises for work was mine, I got them introduced to my bank, my CA, my accountant, and slowly their work started to move on. We managed to complete the orders well in time, and even I was surprised, how we pulled it off. My bones creaked, but well they got oiled pretty soon, the rusty brains started to move, the calls started to come. And people came to know kamal is alive and kicking, and soon wedding invitations from the business circles started to come in, not that I look forward to them, for they are need based relations, for which I don’t care much, they are there today, tomm they are no more. In fact they have done me a favour, and not me. They have made me active, I handle their petty expenses, they ask my adivse on business and other matters, which makes me feel good. They bought Bingo and now my Tuffy has company. They trust me with their Bunglow, tell me who trusts anyone blindly these days. So the money is their’s , and the credit goes to me. And who knows as I am learning on how to go about making a modern bunglow within a reasonable budget, I might soon be building bunglows for others, at a fee off course !!! I am getting the hang of things. And another thing that has been solved , is what would happen if I died, how would harsha live alone in this big bunglow, all alone after me, for my younger daughter would be married and gone. Now that fear is gone, for I know brother and bhabhi are there. And now when we now have lunch together a thome down, it is fun.i hate going for movies or restaurants, I am laid back, my brother and bhabhi are movie loves and love to eat out, so my wife and daughter love to go out with them, good for me, and good for them too.There is so much life in the house now. We brothers get on fine, and luckily so do my wife and daughter with bhabhi. Now my brain runs like a taxi meter, very fast, and it feels good to know that now I am not useless but useful. God sure has the solutions for many problems and he surelyfixed a lot of my worries and problems, in a way I least expected it, by their coming over to Jaipur. Somebody up there likes me eh ! KAMAL MAHTANI Children’s Day comes exactly 9 months after Valentines day, 14.2 and 14.11 , how uncanny eh ! Arranged marriage is a funny concept. Before marriage u are asked not to speak to strangers, after marriage u are asked to sleep with one !!!