Friend's schizophrenic hubby, married life at stake.

marriage counselling??
Talking to his doc to understand waht exactly is his problem if she already doesnt know about it in detail.. See if theres any progress that can be made, anyway she can get him to open up etc.. take an effort.. i am not undermining whatver she has done till date, but suggesting if these have not yet been done, try that too.. She has spent so much of her life , so why not take a last effort before she tries the other option of seperation? btw this divorce thing, was that brought up by her when she told you her situation? also what role does his parents have in this situation?? has she spoken to them??

 

Going by the symptoms of 'saying someone is following him' etc, the psychiatric illness that man is having looks like , most probably, Paranoid Schizophrenia. It is a major psychiatric illness, requiring life long medications.

If he sticks to the proper anti-psychiatric medications regularly, he can run a near normal life. But practically, most cases of Paranoid Schizophrenia patients, will stop the medications during the flare-up of the disease. They will lose the 'insight' that their abnormal behaviour is due to the disease. Rather, they will start believing that the entire world , except them, is abnormal.

This situation, where the patient refuses to take medications, is dangerous. The disease will go on getting severe and severe.

If this (the process of the patient, stopping treatment on his own) is avoided, then, he will be normal.

Ask the wife of that man to go and meet the Psychiatrist who has treated him. She can get more information from him(psychiatrist)

 

Indianguy - i wanted to ask you some psychiatric advice, but you dont seem to have private messanger. How should i ask?

Regards, Arbit

 

Hi Arbit,

First of all, let me tell me, I am not a qualified psychiatrist. I am only a Family Practioner. I am new to this forum. I do not know how to give / receive private messages. You can ask the forum moderator, about the procedure of sending private messages and then send your messages to me.

I will try to answer it.

You can also try to send your questions to malefemale.in It is a website managed by an Ahmedabad based medical psychiatrist. He has his own nursing home in Ahmedabad. He has a team of around four juniors with him. (all the four are qualifed psychiatrists). This web site is managed by him and his juniors. I recently attended an one hour lecture by Dr.Hansal in a hospital in sub-urban Ahmedabad. He is having very good knowledge and experience in psychiatry.

His website is considered as a very very precious source of sharing psychiatry knowledge among commonmen in the community. I think, there is some nominal fee, if you want to get the answer quickly. It is free of charge, if you can wait for a week or so. He and his juniors answer all queries, nicely.

 

Thanks Indianguy, this is really helpful.
Regards,

 

Under your name it is mentioned, "private message user" . So, you must be able to send private messages to me or to any one.

That privilege is not given to me, in this forum. Look at my name, there wont be any mention 'private message user" beneath it, the way you see under your name.

Moderator :

Private messaging / PM is not a " privilege " given to anyone in this forum . It is something one pays and gets it. Paying an annual subscription, you can get a PM facilty and gift it one friend as well. One PM user cannot send messages to another non-PM user. Both needs to have the PM facility by,
I repeat-paying an annual subscription to message each other. This is FYI

 

You are right, this is a very serious disease and it can also lead to suicide. Last year I was trying hard to help one such victim from US who had posted on a website about how he is being followed . He was a IIT, a class A student and who has worked in top notch companies. He never stayed at one place more than 2 days. He used to post his whereabouts contact details and vanish to different city. He also opened his twitter account by name Jai vinayak so that people follow him . He was a total pscyhotic person. I had arranged a person in Delhi somehow when he wrote he is in Delhi to see if someone can help him. He had knife with him and threatened the person who was from a NGO that he will harm him. The NGO person said he thinks everyone is there to harm him.

A acquaintance of mine whose brother had same problem in Chennai jumpted into the sea and committed suicide.

This is an extremly , extremely dangerous mental disease Paranoid Schizophrenia.

 

You will seldom find people with Paranoid Schizophrenia who are not super intelligent. They have excelled in academics, have won medals. Their brain has worked superbly. They can do many things like booking tickets, traveling, working. While still believing someone is following them. The human brain is a mystery.

I am not sure how your friends family suggest because she is married she needs to pull on no matter what. To live with someone in this situation can turn other person mad. Not that one has to desert someone , but she was cheated right from first stage. Second mistake is your friends, she is a doctor and after few days of marriage she got to know about his condition and still she did not say anything. Being a doctor does she not know what is Paranoid Schizophrenia..?

She spend 13 years with this guy and now she has kids and what is she expecting now?