Forcing Situations Make People Rough. An Advice To People Who Are Trying To Conceive..

I am so sorry you had to go thru this. I am fuming about the qn asked by the male employee. It is okay to be rude with such people, they deserve it. Next time some one says something like this, just say "It is very personal. Dont talk about it any more" and leave the place. I understand some people find it hard to be rude with people, just practise saying this, so next time you just say it in the flow. This should drive the point.

Hugs to you dear. Loads of sticky baby dust to you.

 

Yes I have been in similar situations. Initially it was very hard to digest such rude responses from people around. Nowadays I think my mind got used to such words. You know I am married for 1year for past 4years(only to strangers who poke me with their stupid question on pregnancy). It's just the relatives that I couldn't handle. Myself and my Dh totally got humiliated by an old lady in front of a big crowd in a family function. My pils stood there with no support even after knowing about the incident. I was yelled saying I purposely postponed the pregnancy. But I am the one who is even saving newly bought glass bangles hoping to wear it one day for being a mother.
I don't know whether i become mother of my own or adopted one. All my wish is to feel motherhood and I ll be a proud mother one day.
If it all I have baby shower function one day, I ll invite everyone who are ttc and ignored in such functions like me now but definitely not my relatives who foul mouthed about my feelings.
May be God has chosen special ones who can be selfless and understand life beyond what normal people (who hurt ttc people) see through it. May be we are His favourites.

 

I can completely relate you.. I have gone through similar situations.. first few times I used to react and get angry on those people . Especially my in laws..Later I started ignoring everyone..

My manager's wife was just behind me... She hated I look much young compare to her.. she keeps telling everyone " once she gets pregnant she will become fat "..Many times this repeated Infront of friends party .I was afraid when I know she is there in the party ( she has no idea what I am going through and how I am feeling. We are not even friends!! ) Once I told her in private to "stop being behind me. Things will happen when the right time comes". She was shocked and kept quiet.
Later with God's grace when I got pregnant the one and only question she asked is" how much I put on" I gave her letcure about how to treat people nice !!. I always try to keep distance but she will be just behind me..

When I was two months pregnant ( doctor said not to inform anybody untill three months and my h was strict about it. Not even my parents or in laws .We were staying in a different city.) My in laws spread the rumour " I don't want kid that's the reason we are not having baby" ....

One of my cousin was struggling for second baby but she was not able to conceive. Finally she conceived, then my in-laws comment "now it should be a baby boy" ( first one is girl) . I was shocked they don't see how much she struggled and finally blessed to conceive ..Why they need to make such a comment !!

Sometimes people have no idea how much they are hurting others but they enjoy doing it . Only God can give answers and punishment to such people..

To all the ladies who already became mother in mind ... God will bless you soon with a beautiful baby.. life can't be always rude or dark.. it is just that God is making you guys so strong to be a strong mother ...

 

thank u @Sweety82 yes but she is a relative of my dh. my dh was very supportive answering her back but we dint make a scene or so as not to disturb the family function.

it happened 2yrs ago but still couldn't forget those words as only i know how much i needed to be a "mom".
I still face these humiliation from neighbours/strangers even friends.

there is a quote "Being a mother is not about what you gave up to have a child but what you've gained from having one". I think most mothers would gain on unconditional love, love even when things are not perfect. i may not be a mother yet and i am may not be perfect like her but i think she learn nothing from being a mother. Anyways God bless her.

Few people go beyond a limit thinking their words would console ttc people say that having a kid is a kind of mess and its better off without kids. these people say such things but cannot withstand a day without seeing their kids. i just ignore such statements as i know that they desperately try to console us but with wrong choice of words

I am sure people who teases TTC people does not even have half of our mental strength. But still shows off