So, 4 flats/properties paid for and mortgage free are in his father's name, and the two bought after the showdown are in your husband's name? And, you guys live in a house that is in his name only? That's 7 properties in all in India and the U.K.? Bought over the last 15 years? Even if the India flats are small or in a 2 or 3-tier city, that is quite some buying of real-estate. Would it be fairly accurate to say that your husband earns well and/or invests well, manages money well other than not realizing the risk of putting the India flats in his father's name? When a spouse with siblings does not want to see the harm in registering more than one property in the name of parents, it can be extremely frustrating and draining. It is/was the norm that parents spent all on the children, and children took pride and felt indescribable joy in buying a flat or house for the parents. But, not multiple properties. Your angst is totally understandable. But one thing that stands out in almost each post by you is about the trust that was broken. You have lived with this for 5 years, and have many more years to go before both kids are 18. You have made some peace with it or reached a state of some resignation, but this cannot be sustained for long. So, try to think of the broken trust and your children's "dire" financial future from another angle. Trust is broken when someone breaks a promise they explicitly make, randomly violates an agreement reached or breaks an implicit promise such as a marriage vow. Your husband put the properties in his father's name because it did not occur to him to do otherwise. He did not willfully hide this fact from you. It was an unfortunate set of circumstances that there was no transparency regarding even such big finances between you and him. You assumed (and rightly so) that the property would be in his name. If he knew about your assumption and did not correct it, then, yes he broke your trust. But that was not the case. In your words: "When I asked how could he do that without asking me once!, he put an expression that I will never forget; he seemed not to understand what was wrong!!!. That what else would a male offspring do!... like what would be any other option" There was a monumental disconnect between you both, not a break of trust. This is exaggeration. Your children have a loving father, you guys are well-to-do, and all the properties going to your SIL is the worst case, not a given already. Pardon me but saying that your nephew has your husband to rely on and your children have only you is not nice. If you keep thinking like this due to imagining the worst happening in the distant future, it will show up in your interactions with your children, and you are killing the present joy for a possible future mini-loss. >> He eventually put the house we live in on his name ( only), because I said I did not want the mortgage burden. I didn't get this. Isn't it better to have the house in both's names? Isn't that the default when a married couple buy a house? It is in the U.S. And why should he bear the mortgage burden alone? Couple more things, feel free to ignore these or all of this post: Even when parents are still healthy, taking care of them and being there for them takes effort and time (even if they bring milk for her from far away). If indeed, she and her husband will be the one to supervise their care down the line which your husband will fund from afar, 3-4 flats is a small price to pay. If you see up close what work, running around, chasing doctors, decision making is involved when an old parent is hospitalized for even two weeks in India (even in the poshest hospital), you might decide a couple of mortgage free flats are dispensable. Wrong on multiple counts. Do not interfere in such matters when newly married. Do not force an adult to get a whole body checkup unless they are unable to think for themselves any more. So, blame your husband for not asking questions. Don't speculate on her suffering. It is not your business. For all you know, it could be a disease not diagnosed yet. Or she could be pretending. Either way, stay out of it as much as possible. >> He took me home and asked forgiveness because they lied to me ( arranged marriage) said that he took away my right of choice. When I asked my in laws they blatantly refused that they ever hid anything until husband backed me by 'reminding' them of that 3 hr discussion they had and decided to lie. Your husband's apology or "backing" you up does not in any way lessen what he did. That counts as breaking trust. Your gripe should remain mainly with him. He was an adult who lied directly or by omission. Don't write off your marriage or stay in it with half a heart. You guys have many more years to make money. As suggested in many posts, initiate talk or take small actions that bring about more financial transparency in your marriage. Think of the past as a major difference in opinions and lack of communication, not disloyalty or breaking of trust. Learn from it, move on. You can both save for your children without harping about the 4 flats. You can make money by yourself or your children can make it for themselves, you cannot buy a willingly involved and caring father for all the money in the world.