YM, very interesting addition to the thread. If I was twenty years younger than I am, I'd say that it is wrong, and they should understand that a married son has expenses and will not be contributing as earlier, but will always be there for them in emergency. But, from the experience of the past 20 years, I'd say: what a child does with his or her salary in the first few years of working, depends on the family's dynamics. Depends on whether the parents faced struggle or lost property to siblings. Are there younger siblings of the newly married person, still studying. How much had parents saved compared to their relatives and peers. A question I would have asked the twenty-years-younger you: Did your in-laws help your DH with the finding a bride process, the wedding planning, and related stuff. Help does not mean financial help.