Correct, i dont think he will change too.. I dont think i will divorce him for next 20 years, obviously for my kids. I have to learn to rely less on him emotionally. If i want to travel, i would like to travel with kids and leave him alone. Why should my kids miss the joy of exploring places. I am actually considering an annual trip to one destination only me and kids. If in india then kids+me+parents/cousins/inlaws.