Feeling Depressed.can Anyone Help Me Out

aishwarya92 · Feb 22, 2017

Hi
I am recently married and my marriage was an arranged one.I stay with in law house.Here there are lot of restrictions that i cant tolerate.My hubby supports only his mom whenever if there is some problem comes in the house.Moreover my reln with hubby is not good.Even my wedded night was not good.I cant tel this to anybody in the house.I had a lot of expectations before marriage.I waited for some time patiently that things will happen but it did not happen.I can't ask him straightly and dot know how to make him understand my feelings.I am very depressed.can anyone give suggestions/help me to overcome the problem.

fourthaugust · Feb 22, 2017

Recently married , arrange marriage and staying with in laws, things will definitely feel weird, hubby supports parents, this is also natural and understandable...furthermore insights into your life after marriage will be more helpful for us to evaluate your problem. Regarding your intimacy related issue, even this is not very clear . What exactly you are looking for?

aishwarya92 · Feb 22, 2017

thanks for your reply.Regarding intimacy related issue my reln with hubby is not good in bed.even my wedded night did not went well.I didnt get happiness after that also.I am very depressed.I cant tell this to anybody in the house as well.

Sweetgirl123 · Feb 22, 2017

I think it's very rare that the first time carnal relationship happens is good. It usually is substandard. Both have a learning curve ahead but usually the key to good experience is being comfortable with eachother. So I would focus on other aspects of the relationship such as doing activities with each other.

fourthaugust · Feb 22, 2017

i agree with sweetgirl123, you have to ba very comfortable with each other in order to enjoy intimac...give it sometime..it will definitly improve.

aishwarya92 · Feb 22, 2017

It is 2 and half months.I speak with him normally but i dont know how to tell him that i need.he is busy with his work.even i didnt see him fullly(sorry to say this).i was controlling my emotions before marriage.but if it happens to control after marriage also i cant.These feelings kills me a lot and i cant tell this to anybody in the house.

sumzaya · Feb 22, 2017

U hav just started ur married life n staying with in laws also , it will take some time to get more concern n care from DH.not all couples have a successful wedded night... Try to get more attached to ur DH. Going out.. spending some blissful moments, make tasty food for him etc.. Actually expectations make us unhappy... B more close to him, which makes u comfortable in telling him wat u expect in terms of intimacy.. may b he is also expecting a pvt talk... Give a try..

felaw · Feb 22, 2017

aishwarya92 said: ↑

Hi
I am recently married and my marriage was an arranged one.I stay with in law house.Here there are lot of restrictions that i cant tolerate.My hubby supports only his mom whenever if there is some problem comes in the house.Moreover my reln with hubby is not good.Even my wedded night was not good.I cant tel this to anybody in the house.I had a lot of expectations before marriage.I waited for some time patiently that things will happen but it did not happen.I can't ask him straightly and dot know how to make him understand my feelings.I am very depressed.can anyone give suggestions/help me to overcome the problem.
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Greetings,
Dear Life is not like as you like, You have adjust / sacrifice certain things, it's just couple of months, Wait sometime and pray to god every moments you'll get relieved, enjoy May the God Richly Bless you, Regards, Felix

umabinoy99 · Feb 22, 2017

Hai dear,
I think You are a keralaite by seeing your name. I too a keralite girl.i have seen your problems.. My opinion is if you are unable to speak to him openly, you send him messages...tell him the problems through messages.. Otherwise tell him that you want to speak to him frankly some important matters... I think this will help you