Feeling Bad About My Parenting Style

You are lucky that they are not disturbing while you guys watching movies in theater... since last 5yrs we haven't got a chance to go to a theater as we know our kid won't sit there for more than 15min .... and moreover if someone cries or scolds then my son will also start crying .

At home we do watch movie but when some scenes are about to come we mute... as we don't want him to repeat the same or ask why he/she saying like that ? or why he/she crying ... Now a days he reads from the screen and asks why he/she said that in that movie ..... sometime we don't get to watch any program

As OP suggested you have to cut down the movie time ... spend some quality time ....watch cartoon movies if you want which are child friendly.

 

There are lot of inspiring movies like spirit, poncahotas, tintin which can become edutaining. Watch science cartoons that make reasoning and logic fun. In turn it makes for quality time. And even cartoons please see that they are good to watch and not violent.make weekend,say friday family time. Watch a movie or play a board game or just talk to them or read a story and act. Since they are so observant channelise it in a way that helps them. It is so cute phase.

I never watched serials because i did not want my kids to be influenced or tempted And it was 15 yrs later i went to a movie with family to a cinema hall recently. I can't stand the noise in theatres and never wanted to do something that i would set an example. my personal peeve if i have to tell my kids the right/wrong i should first follow it. Be it food habits or something else.been a tough tide but i don't regret because it was daughter who pointed to something my son did recently and said "mom, i don't know if you have done a good job with me but you have done a beautiful job raising my brother into a good man i am proud of"

Both your kids are different so the methods should be flexible and different. Make it interesting. Do some crafts with them. Remember they will absorb everything though it feels like they don't.


Just a piece of suggestion do what you can. Do not be driven by what x or y or their kids do. Love them,give them the nudge, allow them to bloom. You need happy kids and happy kids will do well in whatever they decide to do

 

Dear op,

There are lot of authentic websites in which you can become a paid member to watch movies at your convenience.My personal opinion is minimize the exposure of kids to movies and focus on other activities with them.

Use your weekends to take kids to planetarium,science museums,story times at libraries so that they get to socialise and learn.Also youtube has lot of videos where kids can learn new things.First you decide on the topics that they need to learn and then play those videos for them.

Also don't neglect outdoor playtimes for kids,i guess they become unruly outside because of lack of exposure.

 

We used to watch lot of movies before we had kids(sometimes twice a week ) . Even after kids I like to sit down and catch a movie but I make sure they go to sleep. Its been ages since husband and I went for any evening shows. Of course I drag him to afternoon shows (once or twice a year) while kids are at school and when I get a break from work place. My intention originally was kids can rather utilize their screen time for something else .
However I have noticed that all their friends are well versed with dialogues, songs, dances from regional movies and we faced criticism from inlaws/ friends when they understood kids do not know who Rajini kant/ or Allu Arjun or Amir Khan is : ). We introduced kids to our culture through music, dance, instruments , shlokas etc. I know that one fine day they will be able to catch up with cinema world and that moment came in the year when Bahubali was released. My daughter just took the movie like a fish to water while my son was restless during songs . But we were glad we made that decision. So now, they do watch little bit of regional stuff especially with subtitles (which I am working on not to) . They recognize few actors and I hunt for films which they can enjoy. I have been looking for MR India online (minus the song : ) )with subtitles though and unable to find it to my disappointment. Another recent movie was Dangal (one of the best kids can get inspired from)and am waiting for either a dvd or a telecast on tv.

So I believe finding the right balance is very important and your kids are very YOUNG! They have lot of future and if you are uncomfortable I suggest directing their energy towards something else. If both the parents are on same page and both of them contribute to their well being , success is ultimately theirs. I understand its not easy but consistency makes it work. I believe in getting out / traveling / theme parks/ creative workshops/ biking/ playing in park/ play dates with other kids will direct their attention towards other stuff. Meanwhile I would also suggest to enjoy the phase of their cute dialogues and have them recorded to look back in future : )

 

Honestly it's ok if the kids know come actors names..I will tell u why..

Sometimes as parents many are very strict by only giving organic,only watching cartoons,this and that trying to raise perfect children.There is nothing called perfection.

Too much taboo for something only make kids freak out.

Once in a while candy is fine but some restrict kids completely and the kids go berserk at the sight of a candy.Like a dam broke..

So no need to strictly restrict.However,anything too much is also not good.once in awhile theatres are fine but avoid them watching too much romance and violence.Show them the right kind of movies like " abhiyum naanum" types..restrict using too much slang.just fine a balance so that you and kids can both have fun.

Relax and communicate with the kids and tell them about good and bad.Dont say "no".just " explain".

All is well