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Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by SGBV, Jan 9, 2017.

  1. SunPa

    SunPa Platinum IL'ite

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    Never knew this hack.
    Well, better late than never
     
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  2. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Thank you JAM and @suanin . But, that will rip the saree at slightest pull of pallu, no? Like, if we do what women often do -- tug up the top of pallu ,about 3 inches from right collar bone, using the right hand, then?

    Also, more basic question - how to put that pin oneself? Or, is that done with help of another person?

    :)
     
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    arpha New IL'ite

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    Definitely a trick to gain your attention and trying to get closer by playing a "Good Boy" game. A kind of negative publicity you see. When I was in initial days of my career I wore saree one day to office on some occasion. My immediate boss went to the corner and messaged me saying I am looking beautiful. Stupid me did not understand his intentions and I looked at him and gave a smile. I was too young then to realise the actual intentions. Then my friend who was watching all the drama and asked me what the matter was. When I told her she blasted me as to why did I respond to him. She said he is a bloody casanova type and better stay away from these dramas.

    So ignore and move on...
     
  4. SGBV

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    Hi

    I draped it in south Indian way only, and I never wear saree in Sri Lankan traditional way. Generally not every Sri Lankan prefers traditional way to work, although some do wear it neatly.

    And I had pinned it exactly the way you suggested. In fact, this was the 3rd consecutive day with saree for me. So, I've learned each day and finally draped it very comfortably. It was a cotton saree too, from India.
    I usually wear cotton sarees for any professional events like this one.

    That's why I was kind of shocked to hear about the discomforts he noticed from me. No one has ever told me or alerted me like this before. I hardly noticed him or his staring during the conference.
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    OK, SGBV is fine with hijack of the thread looks like : ) so here's one more question -- why is the saree declared to be only acceptable formal wear in some places? It is easily the most difficult to put on and manage... yeah some ladies say they are most comfortable in saree and they and their saree look fresh in the evening also.. more power to them... but, dashed inconvenient for some ladies when saree is the only acceptable formal dress, or even worse, when it is the only dress allowed at work.

    For normal activity, wearer has to constantly be aware of parts of it getting out of place. And no matter how many pins we put, it is not possible to remain fully covered from all angles at all times.

    It is a great dress for festive wear or if someone wants to use it as formal wear.. but for it to be made a required dress doesn't make sense any more with so many dress options available for women. The biggest problem in India for me and my friends used to be sweaty underarms and dark colored blouses! Yuck. Sigh. Those were the days when I don't even know whether anti-perspirants were available in India.

    I won't bring up the old question of why men's traditional dress, even in hot,humid places is not dhoti or its equivalents.
     
  6. SGBV

    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    Here in Sri Lanka as well, the only acceptable office attire for the Government staff is saree. Because it is the formally accepted traditional dress.
    As for others, who work in the private, MNC or international organizations, there is no such strict dress code. You can chose any decent office/professional attire.
    However, we get respect or at least recognized as a professional when we drape a saree. It is the mindset of the people.
    Any professional dressing is fine when we are together with like minded professionals. But in general, the public recognize you as a professional when you reach them with a saree only.
    No matter how neat or rich you are in other cloths.

    Again, the only answer to such discrimination is culture or tradition. I fail to understand, why men are not part of this culture.
    Their formal attire is no different from the British formal suits. Despite of the hot sunny weather, they used to wear the tie and shoes here.

    PS:
    Saree is not that revealing or not that much of a difficult job if you master at it.
    My sister is a Govt officer and she could wear a saree in 2 mins. She neatly wears it and casually walks, jumps and even runs with no signs of discomfort.
    She is absolutely fine with this attire and feels great about the professional look that it brings.
    In fact, she uses less pins and less complications while draping a saree. But it takes some practice to master in it.

    For me, it is all fine if I could use as much as pins to make it comfortably covered. But it would get tough to walk fast or bend. That's why I do the adjustments every now and then unknowingly.
    But if you wear it casually, it would allow you to be yourself.
     
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    Kukudukuu Silver IL'ite

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    Sweat-pads are available for 20 INR mebbie.. Good option with silk blouses as we do not want it look bad and ruin the blouse with sweat!

     
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    Wow! What a concept - sweat-pads! This thread is truly turning out to be a learning one. Just checked in amazon.in . Does look like a neat concept. I can think of one reverse use too ; ) When I (very rarely) borrow a dress from somebody in India to wear for an occasion, can use these instead of trying to hold my breath and avoid contact with the armpit portion of the dress. : ) ROFL. : )

    Oh and also found them in amazon.com.

    SGBV, over and out. : )
     
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    This is the last step you do. After wearing saree saree like the model did, you hold the edge of the blouse and saree half an inch each, saree on the top and you pin it, inside part of the blouse, so the pin is hidden. I been pinning from my college days and tore an old cotton saree once. Success rate is pretty awesome.

    Like @SGBV 's sister, I also can run, dance and jump around in a saree. I use 4 pins. 1 on shoulder, one on all pleats together, one to bring that V shape on the left side and one which hold the saree and blouse together on left hip side. The only thing i could not do was carry the kids while they were small. Since DH loves me wearing saree that issue was also managed :)
     
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    Look like saree wasn't the issue. Dude wanted your attention :):):) and he grabbed it.
     

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