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  1. jayasala42

    jayasala42 Finest Post Winner

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    Fear is a tricky human emotion. It can keep you small and at the same time keep you safe.
    Sometimes employees are teased beyond a limit by the abusive boss. Instances are not uncommon, when the employee gathers the fear and defends themselves so courageously not withstanding the fear.
    Fear tells us we are in danger. Therein lies the clue.
    What do psychologists advise?
    'Love your fear.' That's all it needs. It only grows when you let it consume you and that usually happens when we forget how helpful our fear is trying to be. It really wants our best.
    There is the positive side of fear and benefits of fear.

    But is fear really a bad thing? What is the message being communicated by fear?

    Fear is not necessarily a bad thing; it is one of the inbuilt human survival instincts.

    Our biggest fear is the fear of failure and as a result we push ourselves hard and set high targets.
    Persevering through and in spite of fear stems from a determination to succeed and make a difference in your life and those of other people.

    Fear heightens your senses and awareness; it keeps you alert and helps in better preparation.

    We may not eradicate fear.But we can transcend and rise above fear.
    When we have to make do or die decisions, fear inspires intense focus.

    Fear keeps you alert, it keeps you surviving and progressing, it is a thermometer that lets you know you are moving into a hot area and doing something beyond the normal.

    It is fear that highlights the distance between where we stand and the goal to be achieved.Fear prompts us to consider various options, analyze them and evaluate the best course of action.
    Sometimes it may be too high and far fetched goal.Fear provides an opportunity to dissect the most extreme, worst case, risky and dangerous outcomes and identify a perfect course of action that is feasible under the situation.
    The quote given below captivated me a lot.
    “Fear is a gate; you control the password to unlock the fear gate. Overcoming fear is not a one off event instead it is a step by step process where as you unlock one small fear gate, you gain confidence to unlock another gate and another one. Thereby increasing confidence and moving away from your comfort zone towards higher possibilities.”
    Instead of avoiding fear, we pass through all gates of fear.Actually these entries are examinations to make a thorough study of all impediments,obstacles and threats.
    Presence of fear when undertaking a big goal tells you are stretching yourself and getting out of your comfort zone.It is rehearsal to leave a comfortable zone and entering an adventurous field.

    It is fear that points to our shortfalls , the inadequacy of our skills and make us think about more of spade work we have to do before actually proceeding on a task.It acts like an alarm clock giving due signals.

    “If you expect life to be easy, challenges will seem difficult. If you fear that challenges may occur, life will be easier.”
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    Hahaha.... reading that felt like I had let in an Insurance agent into my drawing room, and had to listen to a preamble to get suckered into signing an insurance policy contract with hefty premiums.

    In America, Insurance agents often use the John Kennedy quote that goes "..but let us never fear to negotiate", usually in a tongue in the cheek sense. The old fear-quote that we all learn in school history is about fearing fear itself that FDR said in his first inaugural address as the US president.
    http://historymatters.gmu.edu/audio/8_5_7_a_FDRFirstInaug_MSTR.mp3
     
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    Madam, Thanks for the response.Yes, you are correct.'Fear' is the mantra on which the Insurance industry thrives.Before LIC started functioning, there were a few British Insurance companies and it was only Life Insurance those days and no endowment Insurance for specific period.In 1932, one such Insurance agent came home to convince my father about 'risks ' in life and advised him to take policies for Rs1000 /-which was a great amount in those days. Overhearing the conversation my grandma( father's mother) came out and abused the agent for forecasting the death of her son and drove him away. It is another matter my father met the person in some other place and had two Insurance policies for Rs 1000 each and he lived upto 95 years.
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    Dear Smt. Jayasala:

    Anger and fear are the two setbacks in our lives. They are derived from our desires and attachments. Letting go of these two emotions help growth in life.

    Mahatma Gandhi motivated the entire India to violate the laws of tax on salt through walking towards the sea and make salt. He had no fear in his heart and could motivate many to do so. He also openly admitted violating the law whenever the judges asked about it. He fought for the rights and against draconian laws.

    Nelson Mandela was imprisoned for 28 years by the Apartheid South African government but they could not break his courage to get the rights of the blacks they deserved because he had no fear.

    Many patriots despite facing threat to their own lives, signed the Declaration of Independence in the United States.

    The one who lives in fear all his life dies 1,000 times. Fear is the biggest enemy for self-confidence. Fear is the cause for depression. Fear is the cause for physical sickness. Everyone gets this emotion but quicker we get out of it, better the quality of life will be.

    Fear is the only reason why Psychologists thrive and no wonder they recommend fear as a positive emotion. It is a cash cow for them.
     
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    Dear Viswa,
    Mahatma Gandhi and Nelson Mandela are people with unique attributes.Exceptions cannot be generalized.I agree with you that psychologists thrive on fear psychosis of people.But we cannot set aside their researches and opinions based thereon as totally false.
    Even if one reads the biography of Mahathma and other leaders, it is very difficult for common man facing day to day problems to follow them and adhere to their teachings in letter and spirit.We have to agree that fear is there everywhere and how we have to accept the weakness and get along ,though eradication is the best solution.I view fear as a signal for us to proceed cautiously.I don't consider that fear is totally a bad thing.
    Jayasala 42
     
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    Fear is not bad, sitting and sulking doing nothing is. Fear of law is good. Fear of unknown is bad. Fear of starvation of self and family makes the man go and work hard.
    It needs lots of self convincing that fear does not exist. Fear has many friends.
     

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