Extras by Women!!!

Dear @Laks09 ,

I am so much overwhelmed by your fighting spirits! It appears, if needed you will even challenge God for the sake of your son, like Savitri did for her husband Satyawan in mythology! I am so touched when you said," I am so happy to hear my son saying "wain " for rain" You are simply a great mother, a great woman, a great wife, and a great yourself! Not only me, the whole IL family is proud of you, feels for you.

Dear @Saisakthi Sister, this thread by dear @hrastro , has given me another opportunity to appreciate you as a person, as a motivator and your devotion to Sai Baba. Of course, what you had not written here, and I know about you, is how you redeemed your family's honour financial stability through your sacrifice and responsibility as the eldest daughter, before your marriage.

Dear @Shanvy , the "Tiger mom with a hawk like vision", bravo! what a great mom you are! Only a dedicated mother's determination can defy the medical science and make her gravity defying son to run and to play cricket! Your son will be a star with a mother so solidly behind him!

I myself being a mother,even at the risk of being looked at as self praising, with what words we can praise every mom, woman who have written in this thread! We see Goddess Sakthi in the form of a mother! We moms are taller than Everest, deeper than the ocean, harder than the diamond, and as kind as Baba!

Bless you all my dear Sisters, bless you dear @hrastro , to have brought out these great souls and heroes, working behind the four walls of their home!

 

Wow, so many happy faces and their proud families. Very positive thread.

One common thing comes to my mind, such a dedicated human beings. Your families are very lucky to have you. You deserve the best in life.

 

@hrastro i am an ordinary sahm, who could not work for various reasons after marriage. Before marriage I have worked and also i have been the sought after person to teach some of the programming languages of those days i had the opportunity of being paid handsomely on a hourly basis in the early 90's which was a great sum. i have also got opportunities of going abroad in those days, but could not take them then..but no regrets..some choices are made taking into consideration what we are/we have/we can /at that point..and i can't work now because of my debilitating spinal injury and the numerous surgeries that have taken their toll on my health. my family just wants me to enjoy..

to put it in my dd’s words, “Mom, just enjoy your life with us, enough of the slogging, I sometimes wonder how you have put up with two hormone raging teenagers, and kept your sanity when you have your other issues clouding your thinking..”.

So have taken care of sick for many years that i know so much about dialysis, blood banks,and more. i still can and do organize a blood donor if needed from my small circle. i have raised around 2-3 lakhs along with my husband cash for my friend (about whom there is a prayer thread)

with an absentee husband, i do double the work on some days. banks, savings, investment, property issues. have done from the registration stage to occupation of my flat single handedly (i know there are many out there who can do the same.), to filing fir’s to retrieving lost documents have handled them single handedly in a very male centred zones. Have handled health issues, surgeries and more for myself and the kids alone.(I know many do it but the icing for me is my husband says if I could concentrate on my career and come this far it is because of the efficient way things get handled.)

I have guided a lot of people on this forum and through pm in their real estate investment. for some till getting their loans without expecting anything in return. it was just a learning process. i stopped it for personal reasons, though i still do that for my very close friends or husband's friends.

Learnt the nuances of carnatic music (I am just a kelvignanam..learning from listening and observing) to help my daughter. Have learnt to coach my dd with her drawing and painting by learning it from youtube and other medium, even iL. Have never sent her to classes for drawing or painting after a bitter experience of the teacher taunting my son for not being able to draw well comparing him to his sister little realizing he was 3 years younger.

I do my own herbal hair wash,face wash powders and herbal hair oil. I mill my own multigrain, health mix and the regular stuffs. Baking is at home, as I am against any preservative because it messes with my kids health..so I learnt adaptive and modified baking, through trials and errors. You can see some in the Indian balanced meal thread. Millets and the many forms and more. Any body in my close circle has a doubt, they ping me.

I used to have a big garden in the complex. Gardening is something I am passionate. I make my own compost using all the waste that can be recycled and grow flowers, greens and vegetables and yes mainly herbs that heal and have posted pictures of that garden in the gardening forum. Now I have moved to a smaller place and have just 10 pots in which I have regular herbs and few greens. I still do my talking with them much to the fun of my kids.

I do poojas, learn slokas along with the real meanings, the bhava and the history behind them. It helps in explaining to my kids.

I repair, sew buttons and wash and send the dresses to the orphanage I patronize. I call and promote the orphanage that I patronize.

I knit and crochet when I can. These days I do not do much as I would want to do.

I read a lot. From philosophy to fiction, like to feel that brain is not going blunt with the mundane chores of everyday.

I have and do take courses on coursera just to understand and learn things better, learning after all is a life long process.

My personal satisfaction

this is something that I do for my personal satisfaction. Not that it is great..but yes something that keeps me grounded and teaches my kids that you need to think before you spend..

I save from my allotted budgets every month, and the savings go into a different account.

I save from what I could have spend say if I walk to a place, or take a train I take away the money that I should have actually used to do that (my husband gets wild that I do this but then he understands’) i bind my kids' books and save considerably at the starting of the year and to my savings,

AT the starting of the year between jan-march, I ask around for a child whom I can sponsor the fees and books. So I accumulate all the savings and give it as a lumpsum amount towards paying schools fees and books. It comes to a considerable amount that can help even with the uniform or stationery for the whole year, and having been doing it for a few years now. This year have done the deed.

I have this target of paying my son’s college fees, the first year through my savings, for some emotional reason, and I save for it from possible ways, that I can think of, be it from the markets I sometimes dabble or the interest from some instrument, I will be having amount ready by 2016 march in time for his college..

I exercise everyday, well almost everyday, because of all my health issues which is a open secret here. I want to do my chores and be able to walk on my two legs as far as possible, as far as my legs can handle (because I have been warned )

And the last one, I call up over phone every now and then some of the old couples, parents or in-laws of friends who stay alone here. They just need an ear to share living all alone here. I get my two minutes of happiness of doing something nice for them and in turn get loads of their blessings which has been keeping me float..

Being with family, being there for my family are my priorities and they can never be extras and it holds the same for all of us be it men or women.

WE human being's are very resilient and have it in us to process, assimilate and conquer even the dire situation with a little effort. sometimes we let go just a few steps before the winning post.

@RAgini25 hope you don’t pull my leg again for essay..
@hrastro..done..