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Discussion in 'Interesting Shares' started by Sandyr46, Jun 11, 2019.

  1. Swetha52003

    Swetha52003 Gold IL'ite

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    So the lady is in "crushing pain" about the boy friend.. and even ready for a "platonic relationship" if he ever comes back. What about her husband? Does he know anything about the poor wife's pain?
    I think she have an option here.... Talk to her husband that she wants a way out of this...And go to the boyfriend.. If he still rejects,I am sure there are so many nice men out there who won't play with a women's heart. But she needs to show some courage to give up her back up plan ie; the husband.
     
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    back up plan :cool: I think the 'crushing pain' sufferer she has another name too for that hubby: bakra :shocked:
     
  3. yellowmango

    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    You can't take the ema out of equation because that is the main issue.

    Do men not have the same right to back off if they see red flags?

    When a person gets involved with a married person ,the assumption is that the married person is in a bad marriage and hence the straying.The assumption is that a person in a good marriage would not be open to temptations because that is a horrible thing to do and that is a horrible person doing it .

    Lets assume
    1) the guy assumed she was in a bad marriage because she was not averse to this relationship .
    In this picture...she is kind of the damsel in distress and he the knight in shining armor .

    Then he comes to know that her marriage is not an unhappy one and she is a cougar not a damsel in distress...while he is a sleazy side dish instead of knight in shinning armour.

    Does he not have a right to backoff and not be a sleazy used person?

    2) lets assume this was all very transparents.
    He knew she was fairly happily married and looking for some fun.
    He is single and looking for some fun.
    Both know this is not serious ( because things can't get serious when
    one person is married) and temporary.
    He stayed as long as it was fun...and then she got clingy and changed the temporary terms .
    He is under no obligation to stay in a long term relations with a person who is kind of committed to another person.

    She has no reason to cry heartbreak because the heart was not supposed to be involved.

    She is not an innocent woman and he is not a predator.
    There are no victims here.
     
  4. Amulet

    Amulet IL Hall of Fame

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    @yellowmango :
    Here we are, filling up the empty info-free spaces with our own presumptions. ;):tonguewink:

    This thread started with a 38-yrs-old mother-of-two's email to the OP which had no information on the babysitting plan the kids (how old are they ?) when the email-writing woman with an office-spouse invites him over for lunch. Wouldn't inquiring minds want to know where she'd stash the kids ? Are we to fill in whatever we want when we lack information ?
    I beg to differ.

    Storyboard 3:
    40-is married man with two kids is a good father, a good provider, and contributes his share at home-chores too. (These provisos are the usual things in a preamble about the complaints that will come.) In short, a standard quiet sort of fellow that IL-ites often complain about being stand-off'ish, and not a loving husband. His wife, the 38-yrs-old mother-of-two is no different. She wrote an email to a blogger.

    She was encouraged by the husband (his plan was to get her off his back, be out and about, be occupied in something so that he could peacefully watch IPL, the Worldcup, and other sports on TV, eat junk food, drink beer and burp to his pleasure at home) to go back into the workforce. He knows that she is involved with an office spouse, in chats, and in chapati sharing at lunch. He secretly wishes that the office spouse would take over more of his emotionally clingy spouse, and let him enjoy a peaceful life. All was going well. He took the children off to a movie on the day when wifey had her special friend from office coming home for lunch.

    When he came back from the movies, he finds out that his wife had been stood up. He was incensed. Totally. He was looking forward to watching Pakistan vs. Australia on TV. Now he has to deal with a wife and something called a crushing pain. Life had turned bad.
     
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    Either way, the poor guy s the victim.:)
     
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    pni Senior IL'ite

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    She wants to have fun outside marriage and her boyfriend wanted to hv fun without marriage. There was no love and respect in their relationship. Such a cheap friendship talking about pornography and sex to opposite gender. She is behind him for a platonic relationship. That's again a cheating on her spouse. She is a crap.
     

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