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Extra marital affairs in India

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by anadev16, Dec 29, 2011.

  1. anadev16

    anadev16 Silver IL'ite

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    Is extra marital affairs is increasing in India. Is it good to have an extra maritalaffairs or is it bad (both male & female). Because we come across many like these at work especially. Just want to discuss it here. Please give u r feedback and suggestions.
     
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  2. chandy939

    chandy939 Silver IL'ite

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    On a lighter note

    We have tons of threads or posts here on IL to discuss about handling "single" marital affair...I wonder how people have the patience to go an extra mile to maintain an "extra" marital affair.:bonk
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    Seriously speaking with long working hours and more privacy to communications (individual mobiles vs single landline phone, email,chats) I think it is on the rise.It is upto an individual on how he is answerable to his conscious.
     
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    hobbes83 Bronze IL'ite

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    Never good!
     
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    satchitananda Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Anadev, yes, probably it is on the increase. As for whether it is right or wrong, what do you have to say about that? What would you say if your husband went and had an EMA? Would it be right or wrong?
     
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    JGVR Gold IL'ite

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    EMA's are bad for the below reason
    1.While in EMA it will feel good.But when you want to stop it you will feel that your self worth has gone down.you will feel ashamed to think that you are characterless and do not have self control
    2.if you are not able to come out of EMA you will either commit suicide or confess to your husband and get divorce.in both the cases your family name will be spoiled.
    3.if your children comes to know about it they will start to hate you forever.
     
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    sheztheone Platinum IL'ite

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    You will discover the answer if you ask yourself as to how you would feel if your spouse had an EMA.
    What is right is not always popular and what is popular is not always right.

    If one so badly wants to have an affair/relationship with another person it would be better to first discuss and end the current relationship and then go ahead.
     
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    fencesitter Platinum IL'ite

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    EMA inevitably hurts and the damage can be irreparable. may be, for some couples, open marriage suits better?
     
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    beerbal Silver IL'ite

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    I am troubled by the prevalence of this advice at IL. It seems to suggest that a husband who strayed has to be divorced. I have often heard from hubbies who strayed that they love(d) their wives and the affair had nothing to do with the heart.

    Instead I suggest communication, counseling and reconciliation on first aberration. A marriage is far too serious a matter and needs serious consideration especially when the couple has children.
     
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    anushri IL Hall of Fame

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    What would be your reaction if your wife wants to spice up her life with someone else?
     
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    mstrue New IL'ite

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    And the marriage was NOT far too serious a matter and needed NO serious consideration when he/she 'strayed' ?? oh right, I forgot, it after all had NOTHING to do with heart it was only an itch that needed to be scratched by someone's wife or husband.
     
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