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  1. poovai

    poovai Platinum IL'ite

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    How to get over an emotional attachment? - develop a new hobby :relieved:!

    The issue is getting personally attached to other people and forcing others to value our opinion. When you have no control over in making decision or changing the outcome of it, know when to back-off.

    Last year, we were searching alliance for my niece. My sister was kept insisting on astrological chart match and denying many good proposals.

    I decided to back off from my niece's case....but, developed an interest in astrology.

    Many south Indians have a jathagam (astrological birth chart) - written when they were born and looked at before their marriage. After that no one cared/looked at their astrological chart, again. The cycle repeats for the next generation. Why are we still doing it? Is it still necessary for marriage match making?

    Yes, our (arranged) marriage match (or check) was done by an astrologer and it was 6 out of 10 (anything > 5 is good to go).

    Since my sister is paying 500/Rs per chart match to be read, it bothered me a lot. She may have looked at least 10+ matches and this astrologer gave her tips on 'what to check in the alliance's chart before bringing to their study session'.

    How much, this person knows about astrology (tells the truth) and on what basis this predictions were done? How much this guy makes on an average per year?

    Since internet has endless material of Vedic Astrology, I decided to become one of "them". Hence, my new hobby is 'astrology'. I read like crazy, day and night and made cheat sheet for myself on subjects like Marriage pourtham, Manglik Dosha/ Kuja Dosha/Mangal Dosha, Kaalsarpa dosha, Shrapit dosha.

    Very interesting subject, not that I believe in it. End result, I realized that 'our life is very precious and it depends on our past karma and our actions, emotionally hurting others will return back' (with a vengeance on the name of :rage:saturn/mars/sarpa:rage:).

    Also, many interesting case studies were done on famous people like Albert Einstein, Queen Elizabeth, bill gates, Indra Gandhi, Mahatma Gandhi, Nathuram Godse, Narendra Modi.
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Any on Trump? : ) Quick.. before anyone beats you to it. : )
     
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    Trump/Clinton birth chart are already 'hang out to dry' before the election.
     
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    Good one I to am also developing a hobby in criminal cases inspite being a teacher in a goverment school to have some mental peace
     
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    @poovai you had to disclose this now. Get flooded now. The questions and tagging will keep you busy a lot that you won't be bored at all.
     
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    @poovai , i also developed an interest in vedic astrology few years back when the random nature of life wasnt making sense to me.. studying vedic astrology changed my life so much . Its been many years now and i havent stopped studying it.. its a great tool to understand ourselves and also other people... have checked so many charts till date and they all match the personality and life patterns of that person.
     
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    I tried to know about the jhakatham & astrology but i couldnt understand properly any interesting material to get easily understood
     
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    If you read it English, it is hard to follow, because of terminology difference. Try to read it in your local language!

    In Tamil, tremendous amount of you-tube videos/on-line books are available about astrology learning by yourself. It starts with basics - 27 nakshatra/12 rasi/9-planents/birth chart etc and then, takes you to the complex system. It involves mathematical calculation and the planetary movements. There are online software that can generate birth charts (in Tamil), it is accurately (and surprisingly) same as original birth charts that were generated by astrologers, many many years ago at our local place. There are tons of celebrity birth charts (dead/alive) as example with the planetary movements over many decades to explain the detailed events that took place. Like putting together a puzzle, fun activity! You need to have good mathematical background/interest/uninterrupted attention to go through the materials.

    It is a complex system and it need years of dedication/discipline to practice or it comes from many generations of practicing the skill. It used to be one astrologer for the entire town, usually he sees people in his house or make visits by invitation. What I don't understand is, how a common man can open a matrimonial place without much background, running it as a money making business.... as marriage brokers and people are lining up to see by getting appointments to do the match making (like by sister) or I am ignorant/out of touch with the fact that marriage is made in broker's office?

    My interpretation is that TV media (every Tamil TV channel has one specialist giving advice in real time) publicized the jothidam to extract money from the gullible ladies by scaring them.

    I started to read the facts of Vedic astrology because my family was caught in middle of an emotional battle due to the terms like kuja dosha/sarpa dosha were thrown during the pre-marriage time. These are very serious terms. Even if someone has the dosha, hardly a person can do any pariharam to bypass or to avoid; it happens because of their fate/karma palangal. That's the conclusion from my research.

    I couldn't put it off, reading/writing notes at the beginning (non stop research day/night). At one point, my DH was trying to get me off of it by distracting me! I was practicing/memorizing the terms and explaining the celebrity stories in the middle of the night to my DH, it drove him nuts. Now, I see why, many folks took it as their passion at later part of their life (some even became a professional readers); it needs 100% dedication, undivided attention, and time to learn the skill set.

    Please take it is a fun activity/hobby to pursue! Please, please don't read the charts of your family (like avoiding self medication). It may cause more harm than any good! This is like a doctor shouldn't treat their loved ones.
     
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    thanks for ur reply , basically iam not that chap in maths, let me give a try to understand in our own language, by using YOU Tube, after that also i have a doubts i will ask u, I will make it as a hobby as per ur advice.

    The reason behind my intention is to know about my sons heath issuses and his development, becuase of which i was trying to get some knowlege.
     
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    Isn't the matching of the horoscopes come after a short list of prospects are gathered based on other criteria --- like looks, money, education, employment, investigations on behaviors/history, investigations on crazy uncles/aunts hid in the attic etc. ? Or do people get the horoscope matched first, and then get the 6 to perfect-10 candidates before they followup with gathering information on the other stuff ?
     
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