Driving Car In Usa And Fight With Husband

@Prabh

Most men are like that and most couples fight during this phase. Just remain calm, don'y respond to him. If you are okay, avoid driving while he is in the car. Don't expected him to appreciate ur driving, that will never happen.


If you need to practice, take a friend or family member you are comfortable with and learn.

 

OP,

Congratulations on getting your DL !
First Thumb Rule: Never Ever practice driving with husband ...period. (Yes I mean it!!) . Which you already did (Like many of us, I did it too). Just don't worry too much about it, try to keep calm. Whatever talks happen during that time is merely because of stress caused due to caution, safety, time etc., . So if at all during your conversation we were told we are dumb doesnot really mean the dictionary meaning of dumb. Stay calm, drive safe. Let it go. In few weeks things will get better once you and your hubby gets confidence on your driving .

I am not trying to prove anybody wrong here. This is purely out of my experience. I had to get it delayed by 2 years just because of all these things and finally after I gave birth to my First daughter and when he was out for a week on business trip, I dared to give the drive test and then I cleared ..tada...then things started falling in place.

So just relax , take it easy ..stay safe ! Enjoy your drive!

--PS

 

Most common issue OP! Yes I agree with the other responder that no learning driving with husband, it's very true.. in your case, you got your DL , so you are out of the heat, now you are headed for smoother times enjoy your driving freedom. If he starts an inflammable topic, change topics , plain & simple!

 

Never ever learn driving from husband. They make the worst driving teachers Now that you have got the license, practise driving on your own without your husband. Once you have gained enough confidence, only then drive with him. That is what I did.

 

It is a common problem. Even after driving for decades, I will not drive with my DH in passenger seat. It was/will be nothing but earful of 'what am I doing wrong'. He talks too much, gives too many instructions and it is the distraction while I am driving. It is like he is giving me the 'driving lesson'. In fact, my son says the same thing....my DH gets nervous and making us literally, upset while driving.

My solution: 'there you go, be my driver'.

 

You got your license - if it was your dh's lessons that helped you in gettin it, thank him.

Second, it is quite a disaster to learn driving from your father n husband. I learnt from both parallely n they were brutal n I was very young n my patience level wasn't very helpful.

But still as super annoying as it was, I focused only on learning n I learnt because of them.

I had seen a video where this woman drives a SUV n the men looks down on her, n then she picks up speed n these men jus clutches on to the seat for their dear life n she will do these awesome stunts n they go wow. I used to imagine something like that in my head when I was learning.

N after I learnt, I did drive a SUV n maybe not so much the stunts but did prove it to them about how good I was in my driving.

But one more thing about them, they will never stop complaining even when they know you are good jus because they still think that you can do better.

Don't take it personally, some are jus harsh teachers. and if possible, learn on your own. Don't take your hubby along. Just start driving on your own. You have a license anyway. I did that too.

Once I learnt, at times when they got too whiney, I stopped the car, got out of the driving seat n sat on the back seat asking them to drive.

Moral of the story is that you aren't alone

 

I'm sorry to hear about your problem, OP. The problem is not about you not being able to stay calm while he shouts at you, but him being a bully
Well, ten years ago I taught my husband to drive. I was scared out of my mind because my husband, then boyfriend, was a terrible driver and we were driving my mom's very expensive car without her knowledge. So if something happened, I would be in the world of trouble. However, I perfectly knew that if I shout on my husband for his mistakes, he would get nervous and become even worse in driving, so the chance that he hits something or someone increases significantly. So I was calmly explaining him things while praying to all gods silently, and I am not even religious! Fortunately, nothing happened and he passed from the first attempt and I give credit to myself.
As others said, don't drive with him. Hire someone to teach you if you still need it, the driver instructors can be really inexpensive. Or ask a friend to help you out. You can start by telling your husband that it is not okay to scream at you and call you names and if he keeps doing it, he will be uninvited to drive with you. After all, you need to focus on controlling the vehicle and when someone screams at you, it's hard to do. Matter of safety. Good luck!

 

@WiseAgnes

Men women difference I guess .. women can be more patient & understanding.. we also had max fights during the time I learnt driving with him.. I quickly switched to driving school

 

After reading this post and having thinking of learning driving from DH .. I am thinking of driving school as a safe optionArguments do happen... Tu tu mein mein situations always exist You just have to wait for the ball to be in your court to kick n show that you are no less ...