This is about the boy for my sis that we were looking. There was so much drama and tension I felt need to come here and support us. My parents had got this match and have been in communication for about 2 yrs. It was always boy X's mom Y calling. My dad was never sure so never pursued himself. Reasons dad did not pursue until now were 1. my sis had BF so she was not responding to any of the proposals coming 2. dad also thought she should get into job first (she was preparing for job/exams at that point) and probablly should wait for working boy as this was business family. 3. no one to support dad and advise him. He always talking to me on what to be done. In the course, boy's family seeked consultation from my dad (because of his profession before retirement ) once and my dad helped them a lot for which communication increased and Y started talking friendly. They had seen sis's photo long back. So X and Y both interested in pursuing but dad was not sure. Also, Y many times did not forget to mention, how many girls, how much worth/value they have been seeing but not liking for looks/height etc. Both X and Y interested in us. So Now I went to India, saw the boy and convinced sis too. So now we decided to pursue and sis had broken off at that time. First time, they met the girl. They were probably shocked with girl in glasses. We ( me and sis) decided to keep simple and natural, no contacts. Pic sent long back (about 2 yrs before was w/o glasses, and sent by some relative from his phone of some function). Meeting went okay and they asking Y or N. After long battle with thoughts, We decided to pursue and called them to meet ( we had decided initial ceremony from girl side if they agree). but meeting cancelled by Y on phone But she mentioned glasses thing. Prev pic sent did not have glasses etc and interested in known eye sight information etc. After then there were numerous calls on eyesight, number, kind of glasses. She asking to get laser etc. Dad was annoyed but said okay they will get checked and laser before any ceremony. She apologized for cancelling first meeting, and wanted to come and see our house now and so came with H (no boy). Checking out my sis carefully, enquiring about complexion etc..cooking etc. Spoke like its done thing and my sis is her going to be DIL. Her H is a great person btw. WE thought she speaks too much. Then again phone calls on glasses, and hell bent on surgery done, its Y if surgery done kinds. Dad, actually annoyed at this time, said we will get surgery but it will take time and may or may not happen till we see her eyes checked. She spoke to my sis and said similar things, boy X does not like glasses too, boy X says its permanent glasses. I did not approve of surgery or surgery for marriage but everyone has own opinion. She said, there should be surgery before any ceremony and also they can not do any ceremony this month etc. Now after that there is silence for couple weeks, dad irritated but also afraid of rejection, there is call. They and there extended family wants to see the girl and house ( 3rd time) because they are passing by our house and I am here. Now this time, dad, because not able to speak himself, also included a elder relative of us ( like neutral front runner person) in meeting to speak for us. Now, third time they came with boy, and extended family. Our relative asked bluntly about y/n and that its not nice to see girl so many times. Hearing that, they just started speaking about glasses. My sis was sitting among us. We like everything about girl. She has everything that we wanted. We saw xxxx girls. We do not want money. Here but we glasses is the only concern otherwise its Yes. Also she mentioned that she had backed out only for glasses but they like us and comfortable with us, they did not want hanky panky too modern girl. We had guessed in her silence time she had checked out other matches ( as she mentioned in her each discussion that they got match from x town, y town but not yet seen girl). Now every member of family ( except boy X and one teenager girl that had come) screaming that we are a "perfect" family, everyone is "perfect" in all of us. MIL 'Y', Boy X are perfect. House is perfect. Not of us have glasses. Boy does not have glasses. Our kids have minor weak num glasses but X is perfect. Enquiring about eye sight number many times. Please check if surgery can be done, give us eyesight # after checkingch once etc. We have gathered this much gold money, sis would never have to buy etc. We are perfect was spoken 20 times atleast. They were all ugly and talking like my sis had some infectious disease and get it cured. It was loud drama. Apparently boys mom has 1 eye perm damaged so she is scared of glasses and surgery......Hunh. During all this drama, I was thinking what is going on my sisters mind and heart. What If I been there at her place? Dad got up and went away for break. We fed them and sent them away. Before leaving they apologized if my sis got hurt but did not mean. Next morning, Y called once to apologize. After that no one called for any y or n. We do not talk about it at home anymore but its kind of 'no'. I am guilt filled after that and somehow feel like it happende because of me. I influenced her in wearing glasses, no make up and then when they asked what is eye sight number( they asked 10 times and I hated that), I told they its high, and found out number and gave them. I convinced her about boy, and she broke up with her BF. She was seriously prepping for exams and her mindset changed completely after that. I felt so bad. She is such a b'ful girl but never had confidence. Now after this episode, she was broken, not for boy or marriage but why this happened to her. Above that our elder brother away not much concerned about all this.