OP, You are tolerating too much for your kids. You have lot of patience. I cannot imagine living with an abuser. If my dh do the same next day I will file divorce. I cant take it. No to abuse. Anyway, everyone's choices are different. I am not able to understand the lack of empathy towards you in this condition (3rd trimester plus lot in your hands). Is he human? Unbelievable. In this situation buy more time to decide. Sorry to say its not possible to change him unless he decide to change, which I doubt. He is expecting that you will tolerate this nonsense for ever. Whenever you are yielding you are encouraging him to repeat the same. You need to change your response. All I want to say is you need to stand for yourself and kids. They are learning from him . These kind of traits can repeat. Also he is teaching them to not to respect you. In future if they disrespect you or treat their future spouses this way, it wont be a surprise as your dh learned these traits from his own narcisistic (Narcissistic personality disorder - Wikipedia) family members. I feel he should think about kids than himself. They need both of your attention and care at this age. Sorry for your condition. Please don't take any more abuse from him. Living alone is better than being unhappy with an abuser. You need to set a boundary. More strength to you. Being alive is important than anything else.