I beg to differ. Some of us have perfect* lives. It happens after you put up with a lot of hassles, manage the misery by recasting it as something else, find ways to have secret schemes to be privately happy, and get economic security. And then it is just peachy all the way. *I had not experienced anika987's kind of thrill, beauty, and friendships in India (see post quoted below) ever... It appears that you are like a prisoner in USA. And get paroled each year in India. Sad life. Stay in India, and have your husband do conjugal visits now and then, whenever possible. It is not unusual for desi men to go away, live in a foreign country, to make a living, while the wife and kids stay in India so that the children can go to appropriate schools, have interactions with the extended family, celebrate festivals, learn dance & music, and learn the other aspects of culture. When you live in the USA you spend long hours at home, while your husband is at work, or commuting to/from it. And you see him during daytime, a few hours during each weekend. If you combine all those contact hours, they'd simply amount to a holiday in India with you. It should work out just fine; many blue collar workers in the middle east do just that. Having a local wife is more of hassle than a benefit. You are happy in India; he is happy in USA. A win-win situation. Go for it. But pick up the phone and talk to him about the details, and planning.