Does This Ring A Warning Bell Somewhere?

A very good clip and a timely reminder as we have a lot of young IT wives amidst us in IL.
Sudha is right when she says whom do we tell! Men too should see this clip. Having said that, today's women are no different either, they too are working and are workaholics. It is the human's nature, wanting more and more and to have to keep up with the Jones's.
Like you say Sridhar, to have a house in the suburbs with two car garage is the standard minumum of the average IT man in US. Add to it the other fringes and the education of the kids, you have a plan laid out and that sort of money does not come easy. People here don't seem to have the time only because their work schedules and their weekends are chockablock full with everything they have to do which may not be strictly work. I was amazed to find that my friends in US had not visited each other's houses, their only meeting place being some common get-together or celebration. They do not have that sort of time! Those who opt out of this circus becomes an outsider and may even be ridiculed as the one who did not 'make it' or even as a failure!
Besides, companies today demand 'all' of their employees and I have often wondered with sadness as to how this will colour the future society as the children do not know parents who are not under time constraint.
I don't see this problem being solved. I can only see that people are somehow going to adopt to this change and we will all very soon witnesss (maybe we already are) a changed society and life styles.

L, Kamla

 

Workaholism - meant for household works too!

Dear Sir,

I knew a Female cook who has been working (cooking for office goers, functions etc.) hard day and night for her family. Though her husband is also a cook, he doesnt work much.

Seeing the clip - I wonder how this Chin manage to get time to sit infront of his wife. Anyway a good subject and also an eye-opener. Thanks for the post.

Vanaja

 

The Cat has to find the bell by itself!

Yes Sridhar sir it surely hurts..I agree. Like Chitra madam, my hubby is a workaholic....he is not interested in taking part in our daughter's activities. I keep asking him that he has his TV as his wife and laptop as his kid...why did he need a real wife and a kid then...is it just to show off in the society? I have always tried to remind him but in vain I feel this is not the case only with my hubby.....but with all young people in IT industry (mostly males).

Looking around my male colleagues here, I have started to realise that its true with every one of them not only my hubby. I get emails from my male colleagues about releases, deadlines and meeting schedules for the next day at around 2-2:30pm in the night. Why can't they send the same email during normal working hours...I have seen them loitering around and wasting time in unwanted meetings and then the end result is, they have to carry the work home. I wonder don't they sleep at all? What are they achieving by doing such things...sending emails so late in the night and proving to your bosses that you are working so "hard".

I have read some articles in newspapers recently about young IT people getting into extra marital affairs at work easily...because they spend more time at work and so get to know their counterparts at work more and understand them more and not their spouses. The emotional support and backup that a spouse provides, we IT people look for that at work place with friends and colleagues, and I am 100% sure that this is already happening! which is the most scariest part in our society!!!

I have so many friends of my age in 30's who have problems conceiving, whose husbands have undergone Heartattacks, brain haemorrhage and even one of my close friends hubby passed away last year due to lung cancer. He never smoked in his entire life nor his close relatives had the disease...how he got lung cancer is a major mystery even till date! These diseases used to pop up at around 40-50 yrs in our parents era.....and now along with the other luxuries we are getting these diseases very soon too......around 30-35yrs.

Like Sridhar said "who will bell the cat"?......I am not able to explain it to my own hubby...being married for 5 .5 yrs now...he is still the same as he was the day I married him...having a wife and daughter could not change his workaholism. I try to tell him that I too work in the same industry as him and I have a laptop and "work from home" option too. But, I always try to keep it away when at home. My work timings end as soon as I see my daughter's face.....no more calls, no emails after that. I think each one of us have to wake up to the fact and make a conscious effort and clearly draw a line...only then the problem might get solved.

Regards,
Sihi

 

Not just in IT

Dear Mr. Shridar,
Today is the first time I started going through your posts, articles and stories in IL and this is the first thread I started to read. I was shocked when I saw the clipping and immediatly reminded Thank God I didnt have a Dad like that. His keeps reminding all his workalhocolic friends and to a large extent even my husband at the beginning years of our marriage life, "Leave your official face outside your house along with your chappals or shoes even though you have carried it all the way home. If you are a manager you are one only in office and not outside the premises though you may carry it in your visiting card. He took VRS from Income Tax Service and continues to work with a software company as Manager-Quality Control and Information Security and I still find the same attitude with him even today.

It is by Gods grace, my husband too changed his ways and he now spends a lot of quality time with our kids. But it is a must for all men to see it and understand it with their full heart and mind.

 

hi sir...
i tried to watch the video that you had posted.
unfortunately my player can't play it.
is there any other format available for the video?

thanks in advance sir


regards