For those who have years of experience, has it gotten easier and more comfortable. I have a very unique situation in that we don't live with my parents in law (they retire and went back home). Instead we live with my older brother in law and his family (4 boys and wife) in USA. My BIL is 20 years older than my husband and has been "taking care" of my husband since he was a teenager. My husband feels obligated to stay with his brother and help raise his nephew, sort of play the grandparents role since my inlaws are not here. When I got married, I never imagined I will live with my BIL. We don't have financial struggle to live together. Even my husband looked for apt for us to move during wedding time & I already owned a house before marriage that is rented out. But my husbands relative first requested him to stay with his BIL for the wedding party to show respect to his brother, which I agreed to & didn't see any harm in that. I am a nice girl after all. But then my husband didn't make any more to find a place, I pushed, fought with him, he insisted on buying a house instead of renting or moving to my rental place, we fought some more, I brought a new house & then it was apparent he still was not ready to move. His mom from back home told him to stay together until his nephews are "mature". Guilt, loyalty, or comfort.. I don't know what is keeping him there or what goes on his head. I made peace with my living situation & tried to make best out of it. I treat it like a studio apartment and stay in my area most of the day. I rarely go to common area like kitchen or livingroom, instead I have a minifridge and TV upstairs where I stay. So I don't interact much with my SIL or BIL even thought we live in same house. I know it is rude but I feel uncomfortable inserting myself in their life. My husband lives the same way, he rarely interacts with adults only with the kids. I play with the kids too but I don't consider the house my own, only upstairs area as my own. don't get me wrong my SIL/BIL are nice people & never did any wrong to me but I still feel awkward & still live like a guest after 4 years of living together. I work and I eat out & I go to gym & I travel a lot so I am rarely home but every few months something happens & I get mad at our living situation & also at myself for still keeping everything awkward. IF I just go downstairs, help in the kitchen bit & make small talk everyday, we can all be one big family but I don'.. I can't..