Hi everyone, I need some opinions on something that has been annoying me for a couple of days now. One of my husband's cousins (who he's been close to since childhood) called earlier this week and said that he and his family were going to come visit us in the coming week. He told my husband this and he told me about it. I asked exactly when they were going to come, so that we could schedule and prepare things (i.e. know when to pick them up at the airport, have the guestroom ready, and things of that nature). He tells me his cousin didn't say and he didn't ask. A couple of days later, I asked his cousin's wife on instagram as we follow each other. She didn't say either and gave me some vague answer ("Soon, in the near future"). My husband brings it up later and I asked if he has gotten around to asking. He tells me that he hasn't asked and doesn't intend to because it's ill mannered as it implies that we don't want them to come. I have never heard this. EVER. Don't get me wrong, I understand the importance of hospitality and enjoy having people over but we all have other things going on that we can't just drop. That is why I asked, not because I don't want them to come. It's the same thing every single time anyone visits from his family (except my younger bro-in-law and a couple of other people). Whenever my family visit or even friends, they usually tell me exactly when they plan on coming or I ask them and the tell me and they've never been offended by my asking. I'm beginning to wonder if this is a cultural difference as he's Kashmiri (and Muslim) and we're Punjabi (well, Punjabi-Canadian as we've lived here for ages now). What do you guys think?