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Divorced & now in love with a married man with kids

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by Mooni, Jan 22, 2012.

  1. Mooni

    Mooni New IL'ite

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    I took divorce after 6 yrs of unhappiness. Trials & errors taught me it was time to stop punishing myself and I decided to end it. Being a professional, there was no financial issue for me. Over the months, I came across an unhappily married man with whom, I felt, my soul connected. I had no plans of remarrying so soon. We both being Muslims, he came up with a plan to make me his second wife. I'm highly confused.. should I accept his proposal? Will it work out? Is he just using me? I'm so scared to make a wrong decision again and I want your help so that I can sort out this huge issue of my life.
     
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  2. SriVidya75

    SriVidya75 Platinum IL'ite

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    I would seriously suggest slow down and pls do not put fire in some other womans married life....if this guy was sooo unhappy, by this time he should have left his wife...why live with her and keep cribbing about it and play that pity card infront of other women??

    I dont know how you can stop yourself from falling into a trap.....this guyi s even ready to marry you as a second wife??? what about his first wife then? is he ready to divorce her? what are the reason for his unhappiness in his first marriage?
    you say you are in love him....pls explain what is this love?? what is it that made you like him? how much do you know about him?
     
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  3. rose8282

    rose8282 Platinum IL'ite

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    Isnt remarrying without a divorce and having a second wife amongst Muslims common? I apologise if it is not so. Im just thinking aloud the reason why he did not divorce his wife and wanting to marry again.
     
  4. sowmya4

    sowmya4 Bronze IL'ite

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    Why can't he divorce his wife & marry You? You say you are financially stable, that's good
    What does he do? Is he financially stable too? Look a lot of people tend to take advantage
    when a woman is single. Watch out, Be careful!
     
  5. justanothergirl

    justanothergirl IL Hall of Fame

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    Run not just walk away from this guy...married men who play the pity card and get into EMAs are just not worth your time. It bothers me when people use the word love to justify EMA..this is not love..love needs guts..these people are cowards.
     
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  6. nowhere

    nowhere Senior IL'ite

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    You are only inviting more trouble for yourself by thinking about this guy!
     
  7. anugamit

    anugamit Platinum IL'ite

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    Dont spoil that other woman and her kids life. I have heard about the same incident to my relative where the man also wants a new woman and his own kid from his wife to live with and his wife is in depression now bcoz of thinking about separation from her kid. What is their fault bcoz he is in love??????? :rant

    My opinion if he is only divorced you should proceed further.
     
  8. Shanvy

    Shanvy IL Hall of Fame

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    think twice.

    if he is giving you any crap that it is ok to have another wife as per the religion, don't get sucked by it, if your location identity marked here is true, then you could slowly start thinking the same seeing it is common there as per their religion and law.
    (assuming you are an nri and not a local)

    Men, take that my wife is sick, my wife doles out hell and i am miserable kind of stories, when they see a easy target..so maybe you need to re-check yourself, and how things have led to your believing you are in love.

    you definitely need to think more, not because we say, but you already have a doubt if he is using you..go with your instincts...
     
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  9. ivlakshmi

    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi,
    I heard in soudi most men keep many wifes.. marry so many women and its legal..
    My suggestion is not to spoil another women's life..his wife must have loved him so much and she they both have two kids .. i feel tht this guy is using u..
    though he marries u might hav to live in the same house of his first wife and both have to share husband infront of each other..this gives mental torture to both of u..he also have to share his love to his own kids..going further u will be left all alone once his physical need is satisfied..
     
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  10. g3sudha

    g3sudha IL Hall of Fame

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    My only advice think, think,
    Dont be hurry. Dont get into the trouble again.
     
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