I am here after a long time with a huge dilemma. You may know, me and my DH have a troubled relationship. Some issues to highlight: 1. Impotency + zero physical attraction from DH side. Literally, zero touch relationship. 2. He is workoholic. Works(office work) approximately 13 hours a day on an average. 3. Communication problem. He hates to share anything with anyone. 4. He loves to blame me for everything Good things about him : 1. Great father 2. Well settled , a great provider for the family 3. Hard working 4. Huge help at house with daily chores I made a deal with him few years back. I had moved out of his house and we were separated (not divorced). His mother played a big role during that time which led to our temporary separation. He despearetly wanted me to come back and we made a deal. He will do following three things and after I come back into his life 1. He will work seriously (get help from outside and get it resolved) on his impotency/no attraction issues 2. He will take less office burden and won't work tooo many hours for his office 3. He will keep his mother away from me He clearly did not fulfil the first two conditions. I was still living with him trying to focus on the positives he has. Now, his parents are going to visit us after many years. I haven't spoken to my MIL after that separation incident. His parents want to see grandkids. I feel cheated. I reminded him of his promises and he said "all these years she (MIL) was away from you. Now, I won't let it continue. You're cruel." I understand, although i don't like my in-laws, keeping grandkids away from their grand-parents is not good. I feel little guilty for that. However, I want him to suffer somewhere. He gave me a life of celibacy and I want him to give-up something. If not, then I feel I have lost totally. I understand this whole deal thing is not healthy for a relationship but I am trying to make a bad relationship work for the sake of my kids. If my in-laws don't visit us because of me then he won't behave nicely with my side of the family wither. Not that he is too good with them but he maintains a distance from them . If my parents visit us he does not talk to them unless extremely needed. Anyway, I am so inclined towards divorce this time. I don't know if it is because I feel cheated, if it is because I am done with all the blamings and bad moods and tantrums he throws on me everyday, or because i love my parents and if i close door for his parents now it will affect my parents entry into our lives. I don't know how to resolve this issue.