One of my husbands co-worker got divorced after 8 years of marriage. They didnt have kids. he used to come to our house frequently and would always be coming alone. I used to ask DH , how come he gets that much freedom to go alone about 3-4 times a week? He would eat dinner at our place too. I didnt mind it but thought it odd that a married man would spend so much time roaming around on his own. recently dh told me he was splitting. He was having an affair with another girl for the past 2 years. his wife saw condoms in his car and thats how he was caught. apparantly he had been hiding his salary from his wife too. his reason was his wife never asked him how his day went. when he came home his wife would ask what he wanted to eat for dinner. I thought it was a flimsy excuse for a divroce. They did go on yearly vacations. They didnt have kids though. I guess she wanted and he was scared of having kids (having kids they wouldnt be able to travel a lot more) But i still think the excuse was very very flimsy. Now I am hearing that hes having trouble with his GF as shes asking abt marriage (now that hes getting divorced) and he doesnt want to. In the end - I think he will realze that his wife and GF were the same - and none of them were the problem - The problem lied with him not able to understand marriage but after 8 years ??? leaving because he was bored?? I do not understand!