Disrespect Toward My Parents

I don't want to excuse his behaviour but I understand a little about the food. Indians take food for granted. It is always available to them. They don't have to go out and cook it (the women do, but we don't bother) and they don't have to try new foods because their meals and palette are set.

Also, there is enough variety even in regional Indian cuisines that one doesn't feel the need to step out of one's regional culinary boundaries in order to have an absolutely mesmerising culinary experience. We have so many tastes, textures, drinks and desserts and growing up, everybody has tried them, so there is no need to investigate. We know what we like.

Trying out new foods is a modern, Western phenomenon.

I personally don't like trying out new foods. Frankly, I don't see the point. I know what I like and I want to eat it every day.

Again, I am not excusing this man's behaviour, just trying to tell you where he is coming from.

From what I understand, you cook quite well, so there is no need for him to complain. I wouldn't mind a taste of that mutton biryani you cooked a few days ago.

I am past trying to tell you to get rid of this fellow because you have had a traditional upbringing that has endowed you with a sense of duty. I have not. I just do what I like. So, it can be a bit difficult for me to comprehend. But, as the Americans say, "just do you".

 

Just get rid of him. If I was in his place, I would consider myself very lucky. A wife who cooks Indian food and is both traditional and modern. You can't really ask for more than that. The ingrate doesn't how good he's got it.

 

OP I don't in any support disrespect towards parents. So you have to be firm on it. What he will do if you do the same to his father? Anyway keep your level high, but tell him very clearly that these kind behavior towards to your father is not going to work. If he do walk way.

In my experience it is better not to offer food to someone who don't like it. Some people have comfort zone and they don't want to move out side of it and try new taste and dishes.

My husband is one of them. If he likes something, he keep on eating the same for ever. Offering new food or dishes makes him uncomfortable. Now I cook for my self and don't care what he wants or not. If he wants he can try , if not no problem. But I like to cook for people who really try and appreciate new dishes and tastes.

Look like your dh has similar comfort zone. But he dont have to disrespect others for being in that zone.

 

If it was that easy , OP would not be on IL ! There is a child involved, so it's not as simple as getting rid of the "nincompoop" .

 

That's a good name though, you must admit, "nincompoop".

 

It's not friendship but respect that's missing. You are flogging a dead horse here. You have a picture of an ideal marriage stuck in your head and your reality is nowhere close to it. Hence normal conversations are escalating into unnecessary arguments .what your Your husband is saying is ridiculous , but that's not the point here . The point is he is having an audience , you. When he starts talking like that, just walk away , no need to analyse . Waste of time.

 

@Sunshine04 does not mean it is right though, specially considering Indian marriages are all about getting two families together rather than two individuals