You have lots of Indians who are in US. You can seek help from Indian families in your community. I agree that the attention you get when a family is in support is altogether a different thing again. But just give it a thought as your husband is really not interested in moving back to India. As of now even we are trying to move out from India but not finding a good oppurtunity. So its not a bad place or its not very much difficult to get adjusted there. Look at the positive things and strengthen yourselves.