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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Sunshine04, May 1, 2017.

  1. Sunshine04

    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    A good DIL gets abusive in-laws.
    A bad DIL gets good in-laws.
    Isn't it funny.
    This is something I have seen from my life.
     
  2. Sunshine04

    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    What are your views on this
     
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    iamsrihere Platinum IL'ite

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    In any relationship, if you bend down so much you will be taken for granted. And when you show some restraint or attitude,you will be given respect. What to do,the world doesn't allow people to be or act good.
     
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    May be God wants a balance. Apart from jokes. Yes sincerely I had the same question in my mind. But this is how the world runs
     
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    deepthyanoop Gold IL'ite

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    So true..
     
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    My in-laws are pretty sweet (despite being a little neurotic), so I must be the bad DIL ....
     
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    Rarely it happens every one in family is good.
     
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    Well, that's true. In my case, my husband is my wicked 'in-law'
     
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    True always the good one gets beaten with words ..
     
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    I think a lot of mils ( not all)start of being difficult and tough.That is the entitlement they have been conditioned to believe.
    They are expected to be tough and strict and possesive......to put the dil in the place or to make her bend and adjust to their way of life and thinking.

    Some do it subtly ..sometimes even with love......some do it brazenly .

    The expectation is that the dil will finally adjust to her ways and accept her rule and finally they will be the family that the mil wanted to be.

    Most times....the harm is done during this period. Most Dils do not accept this one way expectations and adjustment. Most refuse to change completely.

    The milder ones are then forced to change .These are the ones who are said to be blessed with bad mils.

    The not so mild dils revolt and refuse to change...often opting to seek independence from the oppression. They go against the tide and fight back with force.These women are called the bad dils.

    Majority of mils and dils settle into the average mils and dils.....where the mil is neither good nor bad. Same with the dil. Most often the tales of mil and dil are a little exaggerated depending on who the story teller is and who the audience is. What people hear and interpret has a big part to play in people being labelled as bad this and that.

    In my case.....we are both pretty average.
    The only card I hold over her is that I have always been there for them when they were sick ...but I have not let them do the same for me.I was with them when I was a bit unwell . She was not considerate or caring.....so she never got to be a caretaker for me when I really needed one. I used other options .
     
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