Decisions/choices Made! Can You Blame Others For It?!

no two sides or three sides coin, quite clear and evident. Before one vents amd rants, one needs to be clear:
1. inmates run the asylum in any online forum
2. this aint no professional therapy, just reality-tv show like peek into online stranger woes. Maybe a good stress buster before they log out and go tend to their dh ds dd or work/real life. Advices are a "form of distraction"/a break for the mind (sorta) like fb whatsapp groups soc media, since ppl are addicted to online things and "compulsively checking" threads and forums now. That's all there is to it. Thats the truth if one examines it honestly.

 

Most OPs seek validation rather than solutions.

For the few OPs who sincerely seek advice: Buyer beware.

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Lol! But seriously, I used to work in legal advisory & remember our firm charging clients hefty amounts for advice not tilting one way or the other, just stating possible views with arguments presented on both sides.basically not opining!! And the most imp part was the disclaimer since that determined how much our necks were in the line! Lol....

 

As adults we should be responsible for our actions and decisions. But age doesn't define your maturity level, so being 18+ doesn't make you a mature adult just like that.

People can be easily influenced by anything. Even a soap character or a road side beggar can trigger a change in you.
Depends on what exactly you are looking for, the on-line posts and answers can influence you.

But what maturity is, to take everything with a bag of salt.

On-line forums are no different from real life experience.

If you speak out your problems at a friends' or neighbors' or colleagues' gathering, you would here similar responses from them as well.
Just like real life people, these on-line posters too can give wise-matured and responsible answers, as well crooked and irresponsible answers depending on who they are.

Just that, you can't figure out their background or genuineness based on their user names here.
Eg: Agoodgirl could be a bad girl in real life.

 

Their relationship worked because the whiny mil's son and dil moved out to live far away.( As mentioned casually in the letter)
I think it should be counted as an IL success story.