Dealing With Unnecessary Comments On Post Preg Weight?

Ravsaries17 · Aug 29, 2017

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It's been 9 months postpartum..I'm stuck at same weight as I was while discharged from hospital after C section..im not going to mention my height weight etc as I'm little embarrassed..but I know exactly why I have not lost weight..
1. Had extremely complicated pregnancy with home rest, and bedrest in advanced stages..
2. Difficult time during and after delivery due to premature contractions and early delivery
3. Extreme mental stress due to all medical problems and tension about health of prematurely born baby
4. Hypothyroid , and taking thyronorm for it.
5. Post delivery diet was ghee rich according to family tradition and had to follow it for initial months before taking normal food
6. Lot of tensions and unexpected fights and Mis understandings in laws place so lot of irritation in mind
7. Lack of sleep..especially when baby is colicky or weather change or unwell there are sleepless nights..but that's to be expected
8. Unreliable household helps..maids are irregular and not proper..so many a time I don't get proper time for myself and end up doing household task that make me tired.
9. Low milk supply, hence could not exclusively breastfeed.
10. Lack of energy to exercise..
I try to follow diet and small exercises but I'm not consistent with it..
Every now and then guests keep coming...and now and then social occasions keep coming up which I have to attend..its so irritating when in law relatives, my relatives, neighbours, family friends etc comment on my weight..why can't these people just talk some useful stuff instead of checking out my body and commenting on it..I have few doubts
* why are some people so jobless that they comment on weight like this..don't they have sympathy for lady who has gone thru such difficult time and slogging day and night without sleep..
*heights of indecency to comment in front of everyone..
* how do they expect a woman to magically reduce and become size zero after c section delivery..it takes time and effort right..
* is it normal to not lose weight even after so many months ? The belly and hips are same ..its irritating when few women boast about how they were so slim even few weeks after delivery..
I want to know how u moms reply when people make unflattering remarks about ur weight..and how long you took to come back to pre pregnancy weight..and how it's possible to reduce weight while managing house and kid with minimum help..
I'm concerned about slimming down in a healthy way..not by doing crash dieting or boot camp exercises etc..
I'm not sure if I posted in correct forum..moderators if this shud be posted in different forum pls move it.
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Take everything in a positive way .. beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder! You should not pay much attention to such comments .. Try to do some yoga exercises and brisk walking for 10-15 mins daily which should help you.Avoid rice if possible for sometime and focus on fruits and vegetables and drink lots of water.

Finally, there are many many people in this world who are little overweight but are admired by men .. cheers!

Needtobestrong · Aug 29, 2017

DrVandhana said: ↑

Hi dear,

I am an Ayurveda physician. I need to know whether you are breast feeding now or not. How old is your kid now? Your diet patterns? Are you doing any exercises? Have you taken any ayurveda medicines or treatment before? If I know this, I think I can help you . But still you can try out these solutions to solve your problem.

You need not worry about what people talk about you. Let them talk. You just ignore such things. Don't take everything into head or else you will have only time to listen to such loose talks. I know it's difficult. Think that there are people always who act weird and nobody can change them. You should first of all believe in yourself. Show them back that it is possible for you . Do what all you can to get back to what you desire.

If you are feeding and have less lactation , then try eating green gram,include lots of leafy vegetables like spinach etc. Drink 2-3 glasses of milk mixed with Satavarex granules, Eating a diet with less spicy, pungent and sour food is good to ensure proper lactation.Have food at a proper time and in proper quantity. Keep breakfast by 8 A.M, Lunch by 1.30 or 2 p.m, dinner at 8 p.m. Drink lots of water. Dont skip meals, be it your lunch/ dinner/ breakfast. Avoid tubers like potato and tapioca and pulses. However moong dal is good. Have atleast 2-3 fruits per day and vegetable salad either in steamed or raw form. Have small fishes like anchovies, sardine etc. Avoid fishes containing mercury. Avoid eating egg in raw form. Eat them in fully boiled form. Avoid bakery items and items containing maida. Processed junk foods , canned products and carbonated products can be avoid. Chicken and beef can be taken in raw form. Take fruits and vegetables in the form of juice, without adding sugar.

Breastfeeding for a long time helps in losing weight by burning up extra fat and calories.If not breastfeeding,Take a glass of warm water mixed with one lemon juice and 2 tsp honey. Do exercises regularly from 3rd month post delivery for 15-20 minutes atleast. You can either go for walking or do yoga at home.
Some of the yogaasana can be done are, bhujangasana, dhanurasana, padahastanasa, paschimottasana, bridge pose, cat pose, pelvic tilts, spinal twist, boat pose etc. All the exercises should be done after wearing an abdominal belt. The more exercise you do, more active you become and your brain works faster and better. This also aids in having proper sleep at night and wards off anxiety, depression, tension, stress and strain. Only if you sleep properly then will it be able for you to become more physically and mentally active. Keep your mind blank while doing focussing exercises like virabhadrasana, halasana, tadasana and garudasana. You can also focus on some object for some time. For eg: the flame of a lighted candle. Or you can practice nadishodhana pranayama.

It is ok even if you lose 1 or half kg per month. It should be gradual. Only then you will feel active and energetic, without losing stamina to do house hold chores or a job at office. Meditation also works to have a clear and peaceful mind. Continue taking hormonal tablet if you are having.

Even after trying all these, if you feel its useless, you can take ayurvedic medicines and panchakarma treatments , as well as abhyanga, oosham and udvartana under the supervision of an expert.

Thank you.
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Thanks a lot for the detailed advice Doctor.
I'm not breastfeeding now..it's been a year since delivery almost.
Almost stopped lactating..
I avoid eating white rice..
Will follow ur other suggestions also.

DrVandhana · Aug 30, 2017

Thyagarajan said: ↑

Dr Vandhana like a Beloved Mother had done that extra mile. Her notes above demonstrates true concern, meaningful, soothing words to hurt soul. Hats off to you Adam. Other would be IL'ites would be greatly benefitted with your advice in above jotting. This is true seva. Three cheers to altruist Dr Vandhana. God bless us all.
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Thank you for your kind words. Hope this will be helpful to many.

Thyagarajan · Aug 30, 2017

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DrVandhana said: ↑

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Thank you for your kind words. Hope this will be helpful to many.
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mine. Once again with warm regards thank you. I pray God bestow more energy and everything good you wish always for others.

DrVandhana · Aug 31, 2017

Thyagarajan said: ↑

Pleasure is

mine. Once again with warm regards thank you. I pray God bestow more energy and everything good you wish always for others.
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Thank you.

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