Hi Everyone, I am an American woman married to an Indian man. Sometimes I am not sure what is a cultural difference and what is just plain rude/controlling. I work full time and study in the evenings. I also do 100 percent of the cleaning and cooking. His greatest act of helping is occasionally taking out the trash or pick up something from the store if we run out. I love to cook and take care of the home, it brings me joy. But, sometimes there is not enough time to do everything including my studies, so bits of clutter hang about or some laundry goes undone. Our home is mostly clean and we always have enough clean clothes to wear, but I can't keep up. I feel like he expects me to be perfect all the time. He is constantly pointing out every little thing that hasn't been done. Why haven't you done this or that. He comes in the room and says you should do it this way instead. Do this first then that. In the middle of cooking dinner he wants me to make him a snack, then he complains that dinner is late. He is constantly complainingc but says he is a happy ray of sunshine. He asks me to remove his shoes when he comes home and calls me from the other room to give him something that's only a few feet away from him. If I complain or get frustrated by his constant badgering he tells me that I am being rude. He says he is just discussing and trying to help. I am a patient person and I rarely felt angry before we were together but the way that he acts like I should come running and do everything he says quickly makes me feel more like a servant than a wife. He says mean things then says come here give me a hug. He gets upset that I don't want to hug him because he hurt my feelings and then expects me to act like it didn't bother me. I have become negative and feel like I have to be very firm with him at times. I say things like leave me alone I just need to finish this and sometimes I just ignore him because I know he will continue to argue with me about simple things. He is growing more and more frustrated and so am I. Everytime I say something about how I feel, he says I'm being rude and refuses to admit that he could do anything to make things better. Should I accept that this is normal and try to get over it or should I continue to push him to understand my perspective?