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Confused Abt 2nd Baby

Discussion in 'Fertility & Trying to Conceive' started by mysticdiva, Feb 22, 2018.

  1. beingmom

    beingmom Bronze IL'ite

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    A friend of mine got pregnant when she was 36. Good luck with your second baby.
     
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    kidsaremyworld New IL'ite

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    I will be 35 this year . My kid is 8 yr old now . We are planning for a baby this year . We are too excited about it as a family . I see lot of advantages having kids with huge age gap .

    • When elder goes to college , I will have my younger in elementary , keeping my days busy and beautiful . No empty nest syndrome .
    • College expenses would be years apart , so that we have time to handle it .
    • We had so much time with our elder one , we did not struggle parenting . Now with younger , I will have more time too , for my elder kid will be in full time school .

    Our kids , our body , our life . we decide what works for us .

    I quit my job recently , to enjoy this phase of life right from pre-conception stage.

    I worked for 14 yrs , now we are financially stable that I could quit my job too .

    Started taking a prenatal and get ready for BD :-D
     
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  3. mysticdiva

    mysticdiva Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.Great to hear you are on the same page like us.wishing you the best with this phase.I hope we become preggie buddies :)
     
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    mysticdiva Silver IL'ite

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    Thank u dear
     
  5. curie

    curie New IL'ite

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    hello mysticdiva
    i am inspired by your msgs and in fact in the same boat..
    i just want to know any improvement in your case.
    thanks
     
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    Angela123 Gold IL'ite

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    I am 33 and I have an 8 year old. We are thinking about another kid now. We waited this long, because of so many things, and I personally know a lot of people who have kids with all kids of age gaps. So whoever says/ opposes about this, do not listen. Do what works for you!
     
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  7. daksh

    daksh Silver IL'ite

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    I had my second one when I was 35 years old. My two kids are nine years, almost ten years apart. We are doing good. There are advantages with such a big gap as already discussed in this post like saving for college, be able to focus on the second one as first kid is already bit grown up and independent and they will help us too.

    Now the downside, at least for me, my second pregnancy was bit difficult when compared to the first one. For my first pregnancy, I was just 24 years old, my parents couldn't come to help me, I had a c-section, but was able to get up and walk around, shower, take care of baby, breastfeed, everything on my own, the next day after c-section. But with the second pregnancy, I needed someone to help me with getting out of bed and other tasks for about a week or two, the recovery was much slower with the second c-section, may be because of my age or repeated c-section. Luckily during the pregnancy itself, I did not have any conditions like gestational diabetes or high BP. It was just baby was bit on the smaller side throughout, her birth weight was 5 lbs and she is still between 5-10 percentile on the growth chart.

    Another thing, when I meet new people and we get to talk about kids, once they come to know that my kids are 12 and 2, they assume that the second kid is from my second marriage.
     
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  8. deepthivinayak1

    deepthivinayak1 Gold IL'ite

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    Hi,
    I had 6 year old elder one when I delivered second one. I was 34 when delivered. I don’t want scare you but I planned for 2 years but I couldn’t conceive immediately like first one. It took 1 year to conceive bcoz I had slight pcod and ovulation problem. I took tablets for ovulation and conceived after 8 month trying. I just want you to start planning for second one. Don’t think about age. It is better to discuss with ur partner and if both wants second one, go ahead. Please don’t plan for second baby just ur elder one ask. We did same thing, we planned for second one bcoz my elder asked and prayed for second one. Now, elder don’t play with younger one.
     
  9. curie

    curie New IL'ite

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    thank you friends for encouraging words..
    daksh... i liked ur words..now my daughter is 8 yrs old (today is her birthday!!)..
    hi deepthi..me too have mild pcos and hypothyroidism, bmi 30...i am trying from past 1 yr..in aug I had early miscarriage.. decided to try only after reducing 5-6 kgs :)..i am in the weight loss mode..
    i am positive in this regard. God gives the best in life..
    thanks alot..
     
  10. deepthivinayak1

    deepthivinayak1 Gold IL'ite

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    Hi,
    Just a small information. Even I had one miscarriage before . Bcoz of pcod, I tried for long time . Doctor suggested tube test from day one but I postponed for 7 month. When I did tube test, next month I got conceived. I think (it’s my personal opinion) the miscarriage had some residue in my tube which blocked my tube. Once tube test done and all clear. Very next month I got conceived. Also google mensural cup for TTC. I tried that to on last month of trying.
    I would also suggest be relaxed and as couples spend more time together(bcoz TTC is stressful period) all the best.

    Hi
     
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