Co-sister behaviour difficult for me to understand and analyse .. please help

Hi,

I am a bit upset today ... not that am sad or in painful situation .... its just like my mind is gone silent .... i dont know what am thinking / feeling is it all right or wrong....

My co-sister's behaviour it always leaves me in a doubt ... is she really good and caring ? or is she trying to play mind games with my hubby and MIL and tries to show case her good in front of everyone ?? is it me who is trying to read between the lines and making 2 + 2 = 5 ? I dont know ... though there have been times when i have strongly felt she has purposely done some thing or the other to hurt me or make me feel low ... never mind !

Well i dont understand how can she have different opinions about the same topic and still present things in a way that my hubby never feels like doubting her intensions ... Please see at below situations :


1. I have joined my hubby for his work and have taken 3 month leave from my office ... We had well in advance finalised once my leaves are over i will resign and stay with him ....
To this my co-sister always told my hubby ... how can u let her resign ... dont u know how important it is these days to have a working partner ... and is ur wife not much interested in her career ... whats wrong she can stay some days without you .... is she really willing to leave her career ?
Err i felt what a kind of wife she is ... doesnt she knows for a wife husband is first priority ... and even after she has spoke to me several times n me mentioning am more than happy doing this why does she has to put the doubt in my hubby's mind ... is it justifiable ? is she actually not wanting me to work only for money so that i can gift her and fulfill her demands ? But my hubby he feels what a good co-sister u have she is so concerned abt u :bonk

2. Of late we got to know that my hubby's work is ending in a month or two .. so we are thinking there is no point in my resigning if any way he is also coming back to india ....so i should come back early and resume job
Now in present sitution seems co-sister has changed :bowdown She tells my hubby no no dont let her come back .. let her stay there with u ... its not good ... how long would u guys be seperate ... no dont send her ... why is job so important for her ... she can do without job ... let her be housewife ...:spin
how did she so suddenly in a span of 3 months change ? she now doesnt wants me to work ? why ? earlier she was fine with us staying seperately now y not ? she doesnt wants me to work anymore ? she is having a complex oh is it ? Actually i was working she was good with cooking .. but this free time i have utilised and thought not good cook but i have made some recipes of mine which my hubby appreciates and like ...so if i start working i would have a upper hand huh ? :coffee


3. We are in a financial crisis and need to secure our future in these 1 -2 years only... Since after that when we have kids the possibility of staying abroad reduces ..
Now when am planning to come back and hubby stays here for few months ... she has started emotionally play with my hubby ... arrey come back no .... why do u want to stay there ... money u can earn anyways ... family is important .. come and stay some time with ur parents and family .. forget money ... nothing is required....
Again we are not financially stable ... have loans to pay off .. neither FIL nor BIL helping us .. instead they make us pay some of their loans ... even BIL didnt spend a penny on our marraige phew ! they want gifts when i return ...but then say dont worry .. money is not a problem .. she is so jealous of us staying in US and earning ... now that she feels it will be a long time for hubby staying alone in US and earning he can save more .. she is making all bahans that he comes back soon ... arrey ..



Please tell me ILS .. being third person on reading these situations tell me ... doesnt my cosister sound fishy ? or is it me being too very detective types ? Thanks for reading a long post !