Choice(s)

Dear @Afresh,

This is a refreshingly different post and it made me think quite a bit. Thank you! You know the funny thing about choice? It is only in retrospect we come to know if a choice was good or bad and like many have said it is only when we see things go differently than we anticipated that we begin to ponder on it. I have made some bad choices but I am not sure if I will go back to change them - if it is people I am always happy to go back and apologize but even then it may not work. So I am beginning to realize that it is not choice as much as acceptance that I need to work on. I am trying to become more kind of "bloom where planted" kind of girl!

On a lighter note, if the choice is about shopping this or that - food, clothes, furniture you name it, I love them all

This is an interesting observation for I am like that too but now venture to take a different path where I am not affected a lot, personally.......like a job, size of a home etc.

Most of us are, going about doing our jobs as expected/designated. That has its benefits in many ways. Yet, I have heard many a friend lament that they are classic text book cases and despite following everything, things did not go as they expected.

and when I struggle with that identity, I console myself often telling myself that "I wish to be a nobody" and what a relief. It paves way for me to observe and appreciate life as it comes along. But I tell you the journey is not easy, enjoyable at times, grueling at others.

I am not sure if I would have made another choice, for that might have been the best choice then but i certainly wish I could have reacted differently. Not that that realization makes me be different now - slightly better, more thoughtful, sleep more on issues etc but then isn't that the dance we all dance?

On a lighter note, choices when it comes to shopping, eating out, traveling etc.....heaven!

 

That is me and majority I suppose

Thanks and regards.
God enrich soil with choicest blessings.

 

That question randomly brings to my mind the prisoners serving life sentences or death rows. Would they have done things differently if they could? Perhaps.

Personally, I don't know what I would do. Maybe I won't change anything. Neither I wish to any day. Our choices aren't independent entities but governed by reasons anytime. Better or bitter, whatever our choices are, we have/had our reasons. And with every choice we make, we indirectly make a decision to accept the consequences as well. Time is linear thankfully. If we were to go back and do things differently every time, it's only more chaos and probably no progress/change in the situations whatsoever. If the reasons were valid/worthy enough in the first place, shouldn't that guarantee our peace of mind? To live on with our choices without remorse or regrets?

I don't know if I made any sense there !

 

Whether we pass or fail, there is a way to reconcile everything and say that the failure itself is a success or had we taken a different choice, failure would have been more severe,In tamil we have a saying' falling face down on a muddy field and say boldly that no mud stuck to the moustache'.( kuppura vizhunthaalum meesaiyim mann ottavillai)
Investment in Real estate may be appreciated as very good choice when we are in forties.But when we become 80, when we are neither able to repair nor sell at a good price,the same choice makes us regret.Even marriages which run smooth for 35 years are in doldrums because of unexpected turn of events.All assets turn into liabilities in a particular period of time, not necessarily financial or monetary.( we see old parents becoming liabilities everywhere.It causes much concern when children with irretrievable muscular disorders ,with no cure, become totally dependent on old parents and siblings therafter.
The person who has lived a hale and healthy life upto 70, is affected by a serious
illness ,the body itself becoming a liability and in the above cases choice does not play a role at all. Ultimately everything narrows down to 'total acceptance'.
jayasala 42