Chetan Bhagat's Speech about Indian Women and Stress

Awesome ...lines by Chetan Bhagat....!

Hats off to women....Proud to be one....!

 

Hey ladies, why are we arguing over whether life is more stressful for women in India or US. It's already an established fact according to the study that more ladies in India experience stress. I am sure in a country like USA, they consider women from all backgrounds as it is such a multicultural nation. However, 83% and 57% does not mean that all women are stressed. I know many women who have returned from US to India because they felt that it was too stressful for them to handle things with very young kids. However, I don't understand people who claim life in India is much easier than US but would continue to live there.

 

Monita,

I never mentioned that life in India is easier. All I am saying is that life for an indian woman is same everywhere. We still end up doing things which we would have done if we were in India.

Just because we are in US, we do not live a life of an American wife and I am really not complaining about it too. We come from a culture which will definitely have a strong influence on us wherever we are.

It is a forum for women. We see how women are tormented by husbands and in-laws. Why to differentiate between indian women who lives in India and Indian women who live in US.

 

Good and imp info, thanks for sharing !!

 

The expectation from NRI wife would be a double dose....thinking of our tradition (that is, before British period).

 

Very true.. IL forum itself is a guide to understand how Indian women have common problems no matter where they are in this world, because they try tomaintain the same culture, tradition, family values irrespective of country they are living.

 

Rules seem to be good....but dont think you can follow it to T......customize i think must be the first and foremost rule.......and the same goes for these 5 rules...customize...them...

 

dear devi,

After seeing so many likes and positive posts, I believe I am going to attract hate mails for this but still I would like to disagree with most of what Chetan has said. It is just a good speech - Chetan loves to show off his oratorical skills. Anyways, here goes :

One, don't even think you are without power. Give it back to that Mother in law. Be who you are , not someone she wished you would be. She doesn't like you?That's her problem.

Would be interesting to know if he allows his beautiful wife the same freedom !! If he does, I must say his wife is a lucky girl and my sympathies to his mom.

Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn't value you - tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.

Can we really tell our boss that ? However, we sure can quit anytime. I wonder how many of us have left our jobs because of our boss. Personally, I have never quit because of the boss but mostly because of a better offer or better organization.

Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network - figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Agree

Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can't score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don't make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don't work until midnight and don't get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Yeah yeah Mr. Bhagat.....looking at your "Pirelli" in the middle, I am sure you are surviving on only one dish per meal !!! I am sure he strongly believes in not working hard for a promotion and hence quit after 11 years of working in the corporate sector when he could no longer bear to see his colleagues getting all the promotions !!

Five, most important, don't get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbour may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don't - big deal. Do your best, but don't keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don't expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain - stress.

Agree with put in your best. I dont believe in competing with others but if someone is doing something more efficiently, then we sure can try to improve, if possible and within our means.


Just wanted to give a different view - hope "Chetan fans" dont mind.

love,
kylie