Hello, I got married 3.5 years back. When I got married I was earning 35k per month. I got married the person who is earning 15k because he is having joint family and enough properties to maintain. My parents thought I can happily live with that guy as both are earning and life will be settled soon. If any problem also big family is there to help, show love. One main thing is he is working in Hyderabad and I am working in Bangalore. I thought after marriage someone will shift and stay together happily. But after marriage he is not ready to coem bangalroe when my company offerred job for him and because of recession I didn't got job in hyderabad. But after 5 months I got to know that he is not doing any job. He hasn't done any job. Thats y he didn't came to b'lore(He dont know the work, to escape that he told he dont like b'lore). For 1.5 yrs i stayed in blore alone in PG he stayed in hyd with his two brothers. From the first month after marrige I used to send my full salary to him excluding my expenses. That full 1.5 years I used to travel to blore to meet him. single time also he didn't came to see me. If I am not calling him he will not call me. If I am not going to hyd he will not say that he want to see me. But if he needs money he will take money. I used to help money to do any business. I used to travel to blore. I used to all the work in Hyd even after travel also. But for that 1.5 yrs he didn't even took me for single movie or shopping or atleast park or somewhere. And he will not even spend time with me. After all this I didn't told anything to my parents. I used to cry and beg him that I am able to stay in blore I want to stay with you please take me.. I just need your love not any salary.. I just want to stay with you.. after coming to hyd i will sure try for job please take me... but no.. one main thing is he will scold me .. he will not tell anything to me.. simply quite even if i am crying he will not bother even if i am sad he will not bother even if i am happy he will not bother .. he bothers only my salary... After 1.5 years family fightings started bec my parents got to know that he is not doing any job and I used to spend money for him and his brothers. My parents went to his home and asked about his job and staying together. that time they didn't told any answer but his father drank and called me.. scolded me.. still i kept qute i dont know the reason iwas luking for my husbands love ..nothing else.. slowly slowly families started blaming each other .. my parenst asking about his job and their used to tell that they are having lot of property no need of doing job.. but ishould not stop my job.. and they will give single penny for survival.. i have to take care of my husband and his brothers.. I told my husband 100000 times that I will take care everything but we should stay together.. but no.... now the situation is like even we are staying together bec of lot of family issues.. I am not happy.. as usual for him doesn't bother... he will not help single rupee for any expenses.. and main thing is infront of otehrs he will act like he cares for me.. infront of others he will tell lies about my family.. that tme i dont know what to do? to support my parents or support husband... in front of others if i am not there he will blame me... not only he his complete family... blamed me like .. intially i was very gud girl bec giving money .. after that my parents spoiled me.. but my husband knows that I will share anything to my parents. still he will blame.. nad to me he will he didn't told like that.. from 3.5 years full of lies , blames.. Even if he married bec I am working and earning gud amount he should show little bit of love right .. without that he is expecting everything from me.. Even I tried to do.. I did for 2.5 yrs for him.. But When I got periods for 3 months continuously and I ama not having money with me even to go to hospital (I used my salary money for the advance for home and LIC, I cant take help from my parents because my husband s family is very rich and they know I am taking care of hhis family tehy get angry as well as feel bad that i am struggling)he didn't even asked me for hospital.. but used to go to office from 10 to 8 and come back prepare fud struggle with stomcah pain... still his full family telling all of my and his relatives that bec I am doing job I am not giving respect to my husband. Lot of things I faced but still i am asking my husband what is the problem.. . he wil ltell there is no problem.... I begged him tell me the reason if any problem i will change my self... Inspite of all this I got negative impression in my full family bec i wil not tell anything bad about my husband to anyone... but they will tell.... What to do? now my parents doesn't believe my husband.. of course me also.. i am not having faith on him.. bec he is acting.... Help me how to change him.. or what to do???????????? i dont want to give divorce bec we are middle class and i am having unmarried sister... I gave 8 lacks dowry also... Still they will tell My parenst are trying to seperate my husband and me for my salary.. and my husband knows from past 3.5 years I have given only 5k for my parenst marriage day gift that too with my husbadn persmission.. still they are telling.... my parenst got hurted.. i am not talkinmg to my parents bec anything is happening they are telling bec my parents told something I am not giving money or something something.... what to to???????