Can't Tolerate Loosing

Priyasri1232000 · Feb 8, 2017

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At 5, your child is perfectly capable of understanding the role of effort in winning a contest or game. The child is also capable of understanding not to be a sore loser and how to be a graceful winner.

These behaviours must be modelled for him. Play games with him and don't let him win all the time - like say snakes and ladders. When he wins appreciate him gently - not over the top. Just say, well played. Point out to him how you are not upset but will try harder to win next time.

Advance to games which require and little skill rather than just luck like ludo where he can make decisions about how far to move away from an opponent coin behind him etc.

Impress upon him the factor effort plays in success. Teach him to appreciate the effort put in by others to win - while watching a tennis match on telly, tell him about how much the players have practised and how the effort pays off. So the next time he is upset about his running, ask him what can be done about that. Ask if he can go back in time to change it or whether it would be easier to focus on this year's race, practise and win it. Time him and praise him when he beats his own record. Teach him to understand that right now what matters is that he knows how to become better than what he is.

It is also important for your child's self esteem to figure out that he might need to put in more effort in one area than another area. Eg. He might take to sport quickly but need a lot of practice for music. It might be the opposite for another kid.

You can read him books like I am the best by Lucy Cousins or I want to win by Tony Ross. These show the importance of being a fair player and not being a sore loser.

I'm not sure I follow what your problem is with Thomas trains. If he is passionate about it, you can use the shows to teach him lessons. Here afferent lots of games and jigsaws in the market with the Thomas train theme which will keep him interested.

Writing and drawing in the air is cool. Make it a game. Write a letter or digit in the air and ask him to figure out what it is. Encourage his imagination. Ask him to draw a person in the air - ask what details he has added - has be added eyes? Ears? eyebrows? Nostrils etc. What colour he's painted the shirt. It will help his imagination.
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Great!!!!!Very detailed explanation. . I felt lot more cheered up. I will sure do everything u said.. I have noted book's name and I will sure read it for him..

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