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  1. nithya920

    nithya920 New IL'ite

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    Hi,
    I am going to get married.I feel very nervous and stressed.Can anyone help me to overcome the stress and nervousness.Suggestions are always welcome.
     
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    peartree Finest Post Winner

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    Congratulations :) It is a very natural reaction to be nervous and stressed, it is after all a huge change.

    But just deal with everything with an open mind. Do not make assumptions that this is how your life will be, in-laws will be etc, etc. and start going into a defensive mode right at the start. The newly married phase is a really fun phase to be in, so just keep an open mind and enjoy it. You will be able to figure things out as you go!!

    All the best! :)
     
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    raji2678 Gold IL'ite

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    Learn to cook and drive..As well as ma aging home
     
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    Raffaello Silver IL'ite

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    Hello many congratulations on your journey.. Adaptability is one thing you got to learn practice in your married life. New people, new environment lots of new things around so just remind yourself that you can just go through this and make a happy life for yourself and people around. Nothing is gonna change then just see things and adapt it. Learn from it. You would rockzzz your married bliss.. Enjoy life..
     
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    stop thinking about the wedding and spend more time thinking about what you will do after the wedding. Like holidays, going out etc. Focus on those things and take your mind off thew actual wedding.
     
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    Congratulations!!

    It's quite normal. But suggesting a few options...

    Listen to music.

    Increase your inner positivity.

    Meditate to calm your nerves.

    Start focusing on skin care, fitness, clothes, jewellery, eating healthy, mehendi designs, cooking, home finance, healthy relationship points, wedding stuff, etc - you can start reading a lot of good n educational things that can help you including how to handle people (that may come in a lot handy).

    Also, start making a list of the things that are actually making you nervous n stressed.
    Break it down one by one
    n write about options to fix it or handle it.
    It may help you to figure out if there's one specific point that you are anxious about more than another.
     
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    nithya920 New IL'ite

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    Thank you for the replies ILs.Ashneys,the boy who i am going to marry usually calls me and take me out with my mom permission.My mom asked me to wear saree and have flowers in the head while going.while going out with him one time he took me to park saying we can speak freely there.In park i usually stand and speaking.He asked me to sit and he sit very near to me.He was seeing me....That time i felt very nervous
     
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    nakshatra1 Platinum IL'ite

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    Start your married life with patience and sweetness. Resolve from now that you will be calm in trying situations(inlaws), and focus on developing good relationship with husband.Being understanding , sweet and patient goes a long way. Don't get too much tense about any situation.
     
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    nithya920 New IL'ite

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    Hi nakshatra,I mostly will be calm in nature .He usually calls me to take me out in his bike.we usually go to park and speak.he sometimes asks for ....That time I feel very nervous.indirectly i will avoid
     
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    Congrats first of all. Though it is a natural feeling, try to focus on your plans for your married life, which will divert your mind and relax you.

    Asks for what?:hearteyes: Kiss or hug or intimacy. Whatever it is, tell him politely and resolutely that you will give whatever he wants only after marriage. Just to spice up the things, tell him that you are giving him whatever he is asking for in your dreams. That will create a good impression about you that you are steadfast, straight forward and at the same time romantic, too. It will also build up a positive expectation for both of you, which will lead to a full fledged romance after marriage.


    Good luck and best wishes.
     

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